Met up with one of brothers old neighborhood friends in 1989 and hung tight as friends for a little over a year until we became involved. Had a child together in 1991 and then parted for several years. Back together in 1996 and together ever since and married in 1999. Like any relationship/marriage, it wasn’t always picture perfect. I was very wrapped up in family and never knew this bothered him. Well, never knew, that is, until he was caught having the affair with an old neighborhood whore. Then all of the problems that he seen in the marriage came to a head and he was ready to throw it all in my face. He has been in addiction recovery the entire relationship/marriage and I am a non-addict and live life straight. For many years I was his rock, (his words). I saved him (his words). We are a power couple. Everyone loves us, everyone is happy that we ended up together, etc. Had another child in 2001. We purchased our first and second homes and built a nice life together.That is, until Adrian made contact with him on Facebook and he decided to chit chat with her behind my back until he decided not to come home one night and lied to me about his whereabouts. I watched carefully since then and this is what I found . . .she is married as well and lives with her husband in the home that they purchased. She purchased cell phones on her account for my husband to use solely for the use of sexting and chatting with her. He hides them, I find them~same shit, new day. I have asked her to stay away, she doesn’t. I have tracked vehicles, recorded phone calls and seen many texts on the ‘other phones’ that I find. It is always a crock of bullshit that he tells her. We are still a couple that holds hands, goes out to dinner very often, has fun together and has an active sex life. Maybe I am missing something . . .why the affair? He cannot answer me, doesn’t like to talk about it or be pinned against the wall because he gets agitated with it and pissed off. Promises it will stop, it doesn’t.Found at a motel in May, 2012 where he left her by going out a back window when I pounded on the door. Caught again recently at same motel in February 2014. I intercepted this meeting by showing up when he was still waiting in his truck for her to come out of the office with the hotel room key. My understanding is that she also pays for the rooms. I brought one phone that I found to her husband who was very upset (but he is very laid back) and asked if I could let him deal with it privately in his own way. Well that was well over a year ago and it doesn’t appear that he dealt with anything. I sent her recordings of a typical day of mine and his. How he leaves in the AM and kisses me and tells me he loves me every morning, he calls me throughout the work day, he returns home with a kiss and talks about his day on the job. She never responded to it but yet they text and talk all the time about how he is leaving me, how unhappy he is and when he can make the plan to leave. This has been the same conversation for 2 years now.The end of this year, December, will be 3 years. Our youngest son is just 13 this year. Our oldest is 23 and works with him. This has torn our family to pieces. I try to keep things normal because I believe he is worth saving. He was my friend before my lover, boyfriend, husband and I provide normalcy to his upside down life. I know, what about me . . .I am strong-very strong and I do everything I can to wedge myself between him and her with hope that they will STOP before I end up insane. I have tried in every way to be civil with her. She keeps her mouth shut and runs to him and he tells her to ignore me so that there wont be any drama. Just recently with the catch at the motel, he took off when he seen me and when she came out from the office, I told her to call him and tell him to come back so that the three of us can talk and he can tell me that he is leaving or tell her it is over and then the whole thing can end. She wouldn’t call him. I know there is another phone and shame on them if they think I wont find it. I do try to live my life each day. Most tell me to start an affair too but that is so far from who I am that I will not change me to get even with their charade. || So, now it is time to expose her for the ROTTEN HOMEWRECKER that she is. I think that I have been fair enough by waiting for it to end. (and it has ended here and there for a week, couple weeks, maybe even a month) but never completely. I will wreck her life in every way that she has wrecked mine. I hope she is ready because (website removed), Facebook and now Shesahomewrecker are just the beginning.