Angel Bear (a.k.a: Angel Ison) Grayson/Olive Hill, Kentucky Kentucky

I considered posting my story months ago and decided against it. However, since then I came across a status written (by Angel) on a social network speaking OUT against cheating. Talking about how wrong it is to cheat on ones significant other and what the”cheater” had to lose and encouraging them to ask themselves if it would be worth the risk. Of course never taking responsibility of being the other women in my marriage or the others she has wrecked, and never once admitting that she, herself has also been the cheater in MANY relationships of her own! You can imagine my disgust as this”status” was brought to my attention, so here goes:My husband and I had been together 17 years at the time, together a little over 18. Angel was also a very close thread woven inside of MY family. Thought the world of her! I didn’t care for the way she operated inside relationships but it was none of my business at the time, so who was I to judge her on her shortcomings?M

I considered posting my story months ago and decided against it. However, since then I came across a status written (by Angel) on a social network speaking OUT against cheating. Talking about how wrong it is to cheat on ones significant other and what the”cheater” had to lose and encouraging them to ask themselves if it would be worth the risk. Of course never taking responsibility of being the other women in my marriage or the others she has wrecked, and never once admitting that she, herself has also been the cheater in MANY relationships of her own! You can imagine my disgust as this”status” was brought to my attention, so here goes:My husband and I had been together 17 years at the time, together a little over 18. Angel was also a very close thread woven inside of MY family. Thought the world of her! I didn’t care for the way she operated inside relationships but it was none of my business at the time, so who was I to judge her on her shortcomings?My husband and I had went down a path that would later prove to be detrimental to who we were as individuals and a couple. We were in a very bad spot. We had almost no communication, next to no intimacy, no matter how hard he tried, I was not interested. He would come home from working away all week-long and I wouldn’t even acknowledge the man had walked through the door. I can’t say he didn’t try, he did… but I was in a slump, a bad one. He began to give up. I can not tell you that I don’t understand how he came to cheat, I do. I was feeling everything that he was feeling, at the exact same time and even allowed the thought cross my mind, but I stomped it just as quickly as I thought it. I knew that even IF we had spent the previous two+/- years solely as roommates with the occasional benefits, I could never cheat on him. I could never disrespect him and our family by stepping outside of our marriage. Our marriage was put on the back burner. We no longer considered our marriage our main priority, or even second or third. Now, just so we are clear, I DO NOT accept all of the reasons listed above, and more, as an excuse to cheat and I never will! After all, I was feeling those same things and didn’t cheat, so he could’ve too. I ABSOLUTELY HOLD HIM 100% RESPONSIBLE FOR BETRAYING ME AND OUR FAMILY! I’m simply being honest in giving our back story and saying I see what lead us to this. Now, might I remind you… She knew me, knew us and was/is a thread woven tightly into my family, so yes, I absolutely feel that she betrayed me too! She is someone who I will never be completely free of. We share very close people who create each of our families.Fast forward: In September of last year I took my daughter on a weekend trip to New York for her upcoming birthday. It was a mother/daughter trip that I could not wait to experience. My husband went to a local”shin dig” that comes around once every year. That’s where it started. They began talking, he began confiding in her, about me and one thing led to another then led to the first make out session. The next morning my daughter and I returned from New York and he returned from a night in her tent, lol!. Life carries on as usual until the following weekend in which I was going to be out of town again… All the way in Pennsylvania. Of course it was the perfect opportunity for them to hook up and they took advantage of it! By this time I was becoming suspicious but I didn’t know with who. Moving forward a few weeks it was life as usual. Going through the motions. I went to work on Monday mornings and he went to her until around noon then back to my job to say his goodbyes before he too would head off to work not to return until the following Saturday. This was our routine. Now of course he fit time in to chat and text with her throughout the week, even entertaining the idea that she may, one Monday, go back with him. Coming in secretively once without my knowledge (he thought) and taking advantage of me telling him not to drive home one Friday night because he was soo”tired” by accepting my offer and coming in any way but spending it with her along with family members & friends of ours.It only took me about six weeks to not only know he was cheating, but knowing who he was cheating with. Once I figured this out it also became apparent to me that not only had they betrayed me but some of my closest family members and friends had betrayed me as well. Some of them claim not to know but they will never convince me of that, at the VERY LEAST, they must have been suspicious, but never said a word. Others knew but decided they wanted nothing to do with telling me the truth. So I felt I had nobody! Still to this day, I will never trust my own flesh and blood to have my back. However I’m certain they have a friend for life with him. Hope it’s worth it!Anyway, I have my proof (and I refuse to give it up on exactly how I obtained it) and I’m ready to confront my husband. I did, and he broke with the truth. I exploded and he left to stay with his sister. He returned the next morning after I regained my senses. We talked and talked and talked and we decided he would stay until after Christmas so that our daughter may be able to enjoy one last Christmas, as a family. That following Sunday he received a blank text from Angel and immediately brought his phone to me. I assumed this was code for him to call her and he confirmed that it was. He insisted he didn’t want that. He didn’t want to just go through the motions until after Christmas and then go our separate ways. He was willing to do anything to work this out. Answer any questions I had with 100% honesty, give any details I ask for, tell me things I still wasn’t aware of, therapy, anything it would take as long as we worked on our marriage within the two months he was staying for our daughter. If at the end I wanted to walk away then we’d do so.That’s what we did, ALL of that and continue to. We gave up bad habits and changed ourselves as individuals which enabled us to make our marriage a priority again.It’s been a year now and we are still repairing the damage THEY created. I’ve never been more hurt in my life. I felt defeated. There is no pain I’ve ever felt worse than the pain they inflicted on me. We are a work in progress. He’s now an open book with me. He hides nothing and to the best of my knowledge has been totally honest, even when he knew it was going to tear my heart out, and didn’t want to. We are exhausting all options before we give up. If we ever do walk away from our marriage we will know we’ve worked just as hard getting out of it as we did getting into it and”out” is exactly what we want.As for”her”… She’s still with the guy she started dating while screwing my husband. He knows what she’s about, after all cheating was how”they” started too. She was once in a relationship in which he was the other man and vice versa. He knows she’s not to be trusted, he’s caught her in lies as early as (and I’m certain sooner) Christmas Day, 2+/- months after they rekindled their”train wreck” of a relationship. Yet, wouldn’t dare admit that to many. They must keep the”it’s perfect, it’s my soul mate allusion” to the public. But that’s okay, I know that he knows deep within his heart that it’s true. She’ll never be loyal to him or anyone, she’s already proven that. Since He was once the”other man” in her relationship… As far as I’m concerned, they deserve each other and they will lose each other in the exact same way! You see, my husband may be working his ass off to earn my trust again but they will NEVER TRULY trust each other, they were built on lies and have no solid foundation to get back to. As much as they will continue to deny it, trying to prove me wrong, they know it’s the truth. You simply can’t turn a whore into a housewife or husband and that’s what they’ve got in each other. Best part, they know it’s true but will never admit it to one another!As for me, I’m sitting back, eating my popcorn and watching Karma work her magic! I have NO DOUBT she’s got tons and tons of shit for her! Now that’s entertainment!

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