Anna Kahler Sturgis, South Dakota South Dakota

My husband and I had been married for 12 years and on the day before Valentine’s day my world came crashing down all around me due to my so-called dear friend of several years. I would like you to meet my worst nightmare Anna Kahler. || Anna and her husband had started a business in our area and their kids commuted to our school. A group of us quickly all became really good friends. For several years we picked up kids and took them to school to help them out. In time, the friendships all seemed to go their separate ways and lines were drawn when Anna had proclaimed she wanted a divorce. By that time she was already seeing other men and decided to pack up her boys and move to Sturgis. || Within a few months of her moving to Sturgis, I noticed she always wanted to know what our plans were and what we were doing weekends. She would complain that her kids didn’t have a lot of friends here and that our son should come over more often. She would ALWAYS have “poor me stories” and p

My husband and I had been married for 12 years and on the day before Valentine’s day my world came crashing down all around me due to my so-called dear friend of several years. I would like you to meet my worst nightmare Anna Kahler. || Anna and her husband had started a business in our area and their kids commuted to our school. A group of us quickly all became really good friends. For several years we picked up kids and took them to school to help them out. In time, the friendships all seemed to go their separate ways and lines were drawn when Anna had proclaimed she wanted a divorce. By that time she was already seeing other men and decided to pack up her boys and move to Sturgis. || Within a few months of her moving to Sturgis, I noticed she always wanted to know what our plans were and what we were doing weekends. She would complain that her kids didn’t have a lot of friends here and that our son should come over more often. She would ALWAYS have “poor me stories” and play the victim and want people to feel sorry for her, especially my husband. || Now what you need to know about me is that I am a very trustworthy individual. I believe there are always two sides to every story. In fact some people say I am too nice for my own good, but don’t interpret that for a sign of weakness. I also know when a gut check does not feel right. Working, in the past, at a law firm also makes you understand that I go off of proof and not hearsay. Please keep that in mind as you read on. || By early Fall it was getting rather annoying how she always wanted to spend time with our family. I had discussed the same with my husband who said he felt sorry for her, because she kept complaining how her family and everyone was treating her. She would tell my husband one thing, but then would turn around and tell me something different. || What first sparked that gut feeling . . . my husband had come home one evening and said he was disappointed in Anna and didn’t appreciate the type of guys she liked. He went on to say “well she hangs out at the bars and drinks all the time and dates low-life’s”, which to his credit at the time was true! But I found it weird that he would care what she did. || Slowly my husband started having his cell phone on him 24/7. He would go places at strange hours, wanted to work out, whiten his teeth, and even made excuses of his back hurting and that he had to sleep downstairs. All the while I was confiding to my friend how my husband had changed and I didn’t understand where this was all coming from. That friend being Anna. || Yes, I was in denial. My husband had always told me that he thought people who cheated on their spouses were low life pieces of sh*t. Anna was my friend surely she would not do that to me nor would my husband. So I decided it was time to find proof, because I know when approached with an affair (especially low life pieces of sh*t) lie to your face. In one month she had texted him over 1600 times. When I mentioned it to my husband he said she was having difficulties and just needed to talk to someone. Then thinking they were clever she decided to use a Pinger #number and still continued contacting my husband with 1000’s of texts and phone calls to his cell and work. Now, I may be in denial but I am not stupid when it comes to changing a phone number. || Then came the mother lode of all proof. I finally got ahold of the text and facebook messages, and went and confronted my husband. To which he adamantly denied having anything intimate to do with someone like her (he did not know at that time I had proof). Then onto Anna, to which she denied the same until I said I have everything on you and my husband. She then looked at me and tried to play the victim of “it was not like that” and “I wanted to tell you”. Oh and the best one was “well I was lonely”. When I pressed the matter, the real Anna came out to play. There was no remorse just a cold hearted bitch that told me “I made sure to end your marriage.” Remember when I said I get proof? Audio recordings of conversations are great to have. || I had found graphic sexual text and facebook messages, her utter dislike for me, and professing her love and waiting for my husband and not caring what the “bitch” (me) thought. I kicked my husband out and told him to figure things out, because ultimately this is not all about her it takes two to have an affair. || The rest of the proof came courtesy of him. He wanted to save our marriage and in order to do that he had to come clean on everything. He also had to go apologize to the people (friends, family and her husband) that he had lied to and hurt during this ordeal. He confessed to the lies he told her, the parading of the affair behind my back, using the kids to meet, and the details between himself and Anna which included them screwing in the parking lot of our kids elementary school. I guess they forgot there are video cameras in parking lots (this makes for REALLY great proof). He confessed to the content of the text messages and various sexual acts she performed, where they met, how often and when, and what they discussed. I felt like I had been kicked in the nuts (if I had some) and punched in the gut at the same time. || In the meantime Anna was on saving ass patrol, telling her family, friends and soon to be ex-husband, that I was a liar and I was just trying to hurt their business and that my husband and she were only friends. What she didn’t know is that her ex and I had already put together a time line for our attorneys on her activity. I then told my husband about the evidence of Anna’s encounters with other men while she was sleeping with my husband. Time for a STD check don’t you think???? So much for her professing her love to only him. || When my husband and I decided to make it work, what I didn’t expect was a scene from the movie Fatal Attraction. She would sign her kid up on the same sports teams. Coaches and parents were fully aware (small town) of what was going on and our son would get assigned to a different team, if possible. She would play manipulative games to try to get at me, which left other parents coming up to me in total shock of how blatant she was. She went to my husband’s place of business and wanted to talk to him. A couple of times we went out in public with friends and she would not leave us alone. She would harass us and cause scenes. She even went so far as to text her friend to come over and kiss my husband and say it was from Anna. Her friend then came to us and showed us the text, and was disgusted by Anna’s actions. All hell broke loose then. Witnesses that night referred to Anna as “psycho” and her tirade quickly hit social media. || The next day my husband, with phone recorder in hand, confronted her. He told her she needed to leave me alone, as well as our son and not come near our family. He then told her if she kept it up that I was going to file an “alienation of affection suit” (which is legal in SD) and have her family sit front row and listen to all the details. He also went one step further that he would let everyone know about her current affair with another married man from Colorado in the military. The audio clearly picks up her voice saying “how do you know about that?” What is truly amazing is how quickly her encounters with us stopped after that little pep talk. || Since that time she has moved out of town, but still works here. To bad homewreckers didn’t have a national registry. No one wants them moving down the street and sure as hell not next door to you. I did receive a call from a wife to which she had betrayed like me. So she must still be up to her old tricks. || The only word I have for her is simply “pathetic”. I believe people like her are so empty and disconnected that they get a power trip if they can take something, which they envy, from someone else. It may give them a temporary feel good rush and then they go right back to their ugly true despair. The true victims here were three kids. How she can look in the mirror and feel good about herself and think she is a better person or mother for what she has done to others is beyond me. As far as the friendship thing, my husband summed it up best. He said Anna does not have friends, to her people are only to serve a purpose. || || >

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