I found out almost 2 months ago that my husband had an affair with this”girl” that lasted a few months. She was Also in a relationship at the time but not married. They have one child together though. Anyway, her and her boyfriend came to my daughter’s birthday party and went upstairs with my teenage daughter to borrow a bathing suit for her daughter. While up there she asks my daughter”does you Dad cheat on your mom?” Really? Yes! So she was after him from that point on. Her boyfriend and my husband were really good friends so she made sure to hang out with them as much as she could and when her boyfriend would walk off she would entice my Husband. || I am not saying he is not at fault because he is as well. As a married man he should have stopped it there. Well things progress into secret phone calls then eventually my husband leaving work(which we own the business so he could) to meet up with her in a hotel room. The first time was a bust because he couldn’t go through with it but she wouldn’t stop till she got what she wanted. Sex happened twice and she tried to convince him to leave me and our 5 children! He wouldn’t so it ended. 2 months after it all stopped my husband got really sick and was hospitalized for over a month, which was over Christmas. I at this time of course didn’t know what he had done, so as any faithful wife, I was there literally 24/7. Leaving my children in the care of my mother or brother that stayed at my house to care for them. He was in a coma most of the month and I just sat there and prayed and held him praying I could hear his beautiful voice again. He ended up having a perforated bowel and sepsis. The Dr. didn’t think he would make it. It was way worse than I can put into words. He had to have a temporary colostomy which I took care of when you finally got home. I have been by his side ever since. || Well then to find out what a fool I looked like up there crying and being horrified I’d lose my husband 4 years later I find out I did actually lose him. Also she tried to get her boyfriend to come to the hospital to see him. I finally find out because I see where she was texting his phone Lately and I’d of course get the run around about that but she was snooping through her, what used to be boyfriend now husbands phone, because she thought he was cheating! And guess what? He was. So she called me to tell me the reason she had texted my husband because I was freaking because all this time I knew she was after my husband(didn’t know she had already had him) to tell me about her husband and to get me to help her find out if he was. So of course being the nice person I try and help her. Well in the end it all came out because her husband tricked her into telling him the truth and he called me then she called and told me. || So I am now officially devastated to say the least. We will now be married 10 years next March. He says he’s truly sorry and there weren’t any feelings on his part. So now I am stuck. I am trying at this point to work things out because besides for what he has done he is a really or was a really great husband to me and we had a very good marriage. So my Dr. says not to make any decisions right now because I am grieving and in a state of depression. To let him help me through this and in a few months reevaluate things. In the end her husband was cheating on her and told her he didn’t love her and is now with the other woman. So ladies karma is real and she got hers and I believe my husband got his by now having Crohn’s and going through everything he did in the hospital.