So this all started around January of 2012, I confronted my then husband about how I felt that we were living more as room mates then as husband and wife. He was working 12 hour shifts( either 6am- 6pm or 6pm-6am) at his job working for the state and had Mondays Tuesdays off of work in I had Fridays Saturdays and Sundays off of my job as a dental assistant so we were never seeing each other. He agreed and said that he felt the same and he would talk to his boss and see what he could do about getting his days off switched up and how much longer they would be working 12 hr shifts. Well 6 months later it’s June and I confront him again about how our relationship has changed and how I don’t feel like he is putting as much effort into working on us as I have, he tells me he will try harder. IT WAS ALL A BUNCH OF LIES! I notice that he’s more withdrawn from me and our kid. He’s spending more time on his phone and computer. When he’s not on that he was on the PS3. My daughter tells me that they do nothing when he’s home with her they just sit at the house and dad’s always on the phone. || In October we all go out for HW’s birthday and I noticed that she had placed herself next to my ex and they carried on a conversation the whole night and both were ignoring their SO! Another friend of ours had even noticed and made a comment about how he thought that HW and her husband were such a great couple and how me and mine were as well. I think that he was giving me a hint because those 3 worked the night shift together so he was seeing first hand their interaction with each other. || In December of 2012 my ex traveled to Florida for work with 2 other Co-workers, 1 male and 2 females one being the HW, when they came back I noticed he was acting different and would not say”I love you” I just got a”luv you” so I asked him what all that was about and he told me that he was thinking in his feelings on me blah blah blah and that’s when I asked if he was thinking of divorce, at this time we have a 3 year old, and he comes back at me with”is that what you want then let’s get a divorce you’re the one who brought it up then you must not want to stay married!” He just kept trying to put the blame on me about our failing marriage. We got into a huge fight telling me he’s not in love with me anymore, no he doesn’t want to work on us not even for the sake of or child, he doesn’t want to string me along, knows how he feels and that it will never change no matter what so on and so forth, he went on about how I don’t support him and his career or in parenting our daughter how she listens to me more the she listens to him. I moved from Ca to TN for him and his career, I supported him in his parenting of our daughter but couldn’t parent over him because in the end that would be her listening to me and not him and that he need to set her boundaries with him not me setting them for him or she would never listen or respect him. || I was so devastated by all this, I couldn’t eat and ended up losing 50+ lbs I was crying all the time I just couldn’t get head wrapped around all of it. || He moves out of our house and in with his sister 2 days after coming back from Florida and that’s when I decided to get to the bottom of this! || I talked with a friend who had been through a similar situation with his ex wife and he told me hands down that there was someone else. My ex is so stupid, the cell phones were in my name so I had no trouble pulling up his phone records and I found a long list of calls to a friend of ours (she just so happens to be the female Co-worker/HW that went on the work trip with him to Florida! He had bought her dinner while there and they had stayed back at the hotel together the first night they were there while the other one went out and hit up the town) They were talking to each other everyday at least 3 times a day for 30 min to an hour each call! I even came across a phone call that lasted 80 min! I confronted him about it and all I got was”she’s just been helping me sort out my feeling and she’s been going through some stuff too and we’re just talking, we’re only friends” I called bullshit and we got into another huge fight about how I know that he has been seeing her, I gave him a print out of the phone records with her # highlighted, and he keeps telling me our divorce has nothing to do with her he hasn’t been in love with me for the last 6 months to a year and that’s when I just lost it and told him how full of crap he really is because I had told him twice during that time frame I confronted him about how I felt we were losing”us” and that our anniversary and my birthday fell in that time frame as well and I could repeat verbatim what he wrote in the cards he gave me, saying how much he loved me how happy he was that we were going to grow old together and how great of a mother I am to our little girl…I called him out on every lie! I asked him what he was doing in Mount Juliet at 11 am when he was going to be working a 12 hr shift that night and he tells me it was a work lunch and all that took was 1 phone call to prove that was a lie, the 2 of them were meeting for”lunch” by themselves, I also have access to the bank records. I was so mad about that particular incident because if you can get up that early then he should have spent that time with his daughter and not the HW! I mean what kind of man chooses a piece of trash over his own flesh and blood? || Well needless to say he went through with the divorce choosing the HW over his family and I told him that she had better steer clear of me until this was over and I moved back to California to be close to my family because if I ever laid eyes on her I would let her know about what kind of person I thought she was, a saggy boobed bottled blond snagged tooth HW bitch who not only tore apart my daughter’s family but her 2 kids family as well and I would make sure that I would provoke her enough to take a swing at me so that I could beat her ass. That’s right she asked her husband for a divorce as well, or I would hire a P.I. and all I needed was a few pictures of them together and a sympathetic judge and I could get him on adultery and take him for everything he has and drag his name through the mud. We lived in the bible belt and they take that stuff seriously. || Hope he’s happy with what happened because their relationship lasted maybe 6 more months after our divorce then he was onto a new girlfriend and that lasted maybe 4 months. I like to know what kind of women are in my daughter’s life when she visits her dad once in a blue moon because he doesn’t like having to pay for all the plane tickets (I made sure that was in the divorce papers, because this was a mess of his own making and I felt I didn’t need to pay for his mistake) He is such a low down dirty piece of scum, he hardly sees his daughter by his choice because he had no problem with me leaving TN and moving back to CA and doesn’t try to fly out and visit her nor does he want to fly her out on his scheduled visitation with her. And he has the means to pay for all this he just doesn’t want to. || So women be aware of this HW, because whether they slept together or not she still had a hand in my ex coming to the conclusion that he wanted to leave us, she has no morals and likes to talk about how awesome of a person she is. || In the end I got the last laugh! I have my daughter, we live where we have family who loves us and my daughter has a father figure that she can look up too, depend on and know will be there for her whenever she needs him and I have an amazing fiancÚ.