I am 24 he is 27. She is a fan of you page on Facebook as am I. We’ve been together for four years. We are not legally married but have lived together the whole four years. We now have two daughters of our own, and my son that I had in a previous relationship. At the time I found out about the HW I was still pregnant with my last one which is almost two months now. Hubby had been acting funny when we would go over to his relatives house, there was another woman that’s was the best friend of the in law. I suspected he liked her but never thought heíd do such a thing. She knew I was pregnant and that we were together. She held my 18 month old talked to my son and even rubbed my belly when I was pregnant with my last daughter. || Hubby wanted to go out alone on a Monday and he was going to go but I ended up tagging along. He was upset like I ruined his plans. This is when I really suspected him cheating. So me, being the nice spouse that I am agreed to let him go out on his own July 5. He went with his sister and her boyfriend. I stayed home pregnant with our 18 month old. I gave him until 3am to get home and told him if I called it was because I was going into labor because I was literally due any day. I also told him if he didn’t come home I was going to put him out. There were times in the past when he was working and he wouldn’t get home until like 10/11 at night and two cases of him not coming home at all. One of which I found him at his cousins asleep and the HW was there, but I still didn’t want to believe it. He did a damn good job at hiding it. Well that night I faked I went to hospital which was a Friday. He didn’t respond until Saturday at 3 in the afternoon. By then I had already packed all his belongings and put it in his car. He tried to come back and make up but I didn’t allow it. That same night I actually went to the hospital alone.† He didn’t show up until the next day. It ended up being false labor I think it was from all the stress and crying I had been doing. He said I wasted his time. He even had the cousinís wife call and offer to go to hospital with me which is the HW best friend. || By then I had already did my research and kind of put two and two together and knew more or less that he was with her. And she was pregnant. I asked the cousin but she didn’t say yes, she didn’t say no either which was more than enough of a confirmation for me that he was with her. When he finally did come to the hospital and I confronted him about her, he couldn’t even look me in the eye and answer me. Well he ended up being gone for a week when I kicked him out. I wanted to make our family work, I was about to have another one of his babies that he wanted me to have. We were hoping for a boy but we had another girl. So during this week her came over three times, we had sex every time he came over and my daughter cried when he left, as did I. I knew he was with her. She moved into the city and got an apartment right down the street from where we live. While he was gone everything started to come out people started telling me they’d seen his car parked in her apartment when he said he was working late. I knew all those times he didn’t come home and came home late he was with her. Can you imagine being pregnant and having to find out all this? I was so hurt. I didn’t even feel like trying to make our family work anymore. I told him that he had until that Friday to come back home and after that I wasn’t going to wait for him anymore. When he’d come over during that week her was staying with her. I asked if that’s what he wanted was to be with her but he says he was coming back. So Friday passed Saturday morning at 530 he starts calling my phone but my brother had it and I was sleeping. By the time I got up and called he wasnít answering. He calls at 630 for me to pick him up, he was walking. Three hours later I went into labor and delivered our second daughter. || When I got out of hospital and came home I was ready for it all to be laid out on the table. But he wouldn’t admit to anything he just said that he slept with her once and he denies the baby being his. So me being determined to find out the truth I got in contact with her. She says they have been messing around since March and that he would always go see her after work or even lie and say that he had to work and go spend the day with her. She confirmed that she is pregnant and it is his, and itís a boy. I ask him about it the baby and he says no itís not his and that she’s lying. He says that some things are better left unsaid. And that he knows he f**ked up and he doesn’t wasn’t her.† He also says that he knows there is nothing he can say or do to make up for the pain I feel but that he loves me and wants our family to work and that’s why he came back. || I love this man so much and want our family to work to but if this little boy is his I’m going to be so hurt he wanted our last one to be a boy. I am trying to make it work and be happy but it hurts so badly. I could be doing fine and it will just pop into my head, especially when we are intimate I think and wonder how he held her kissed her etc. She said that she doesn’t want anything to do with him and that she isn’t putting him on the birth certificate or going to get him for child support but I donít know what I’m going to do if it really is his. He knows that I’m waiting to see what the baby looks like. I’m just so hurt about this still. I don’t think I can fully forgive him until I know the whole truth and see what that baby looks like. I’ve only heard hey side of the story not his. He says he will tell me when the time is right. I love him want my family but how do you forgive a man that’s done what he has done to me?