My husband and I met at church. We dated for 3 1/2 years and went on missions trips together and served in many areas of our church together. We were married for 1 1/2 years. During this time, we also worked together and had many mutual friends at work. My husband and I had a big beautiful wedding, honeymoon… all paid for by my parents. My parents also bought us a house in which we were renting from them as a rent to own. We were blessed. I also adopted 3 puppies and we talked often about having children. || Immediately after getting married my husband no longer wanted to go to church. I noticed my husband was becoming very flirty at work but he promised he would never ever cheat on me. Then, my husband started trash talking me at work…. it got worse as he was quickly being promoted. The trash talking got so bad that I was moved to a different department upon my husband’s’ request. Then, out of the blue, I was fired this past January for no given reason (I found this odd, especially when my husband was my boss). Without a job, and grieving the loss of two family members, I sunk into a depression. The hubby grew distant and became verbally abusive. I offered counseling for our marriage and he refused. I knew something was wrong as I was having nightmares about being cheated on… I even had a nightmare that a skinny, pretty young girl with long black hair but with no face was in my bedroom. My husband said I was absolutely the craziest person ever for even assuming that he would ever cheat. I prayed for evidence… and I quickly got it! || I noticed one day my husband wasn’t wearing his wedding ring. A few nights later, I noticed the house was rearranged when I wasn’t home. My husband told me that our coworkers were over and he even had our coworkers lie to me and text me to say that they were over! My husband wasn’t coming home at night…. oh the lies were adding up. And of course, the obvious, my husband would freak every time I would touch his phone. Then, one day I received our credit card bill that was triple the amount of what it usually is. I went to check what we had spent. All the security questions and passwords were changed. When I got through to our account I found several payments for MOTEL ROOMS! Ugh! Gross! Let me remind you that my husband was spending money on motel rooms when I was shamefully going to the food pantry because I thought we were broke from me losing my job. || Anyway, I called my husband to confront him and he told me that the hotel rooms were for me… he was planning a big surprise party for my birthday and gathered there with all of our friends to plan it. I didn’t believe it and then I also noticed the town the hotels were purchased… they were in Berwyn. Only one person I know lives in Berwyn our coworker, my friend Brittany -the girl I had nightmares about! Brittany is only 21 and my husband is 30, I am 29. Brittany has slept around with at least 4 guys I know of at work. Brittany and my husband think I was a horrible wife because I didn’t cook as much as I should have and didn’t pay attention to my husbands needs as much as I should have. Really? Brittany’s mom is a dominatrix. The apple doesn’t fall from the tree, does it? Where are people’s morals? || My whole family is traumatized and cry as much as I do. My family offered to let my husband back in the house if he dropped Brittany and went to counseling, but my husband says that he could never forgive me for publicly humiliating him by telling my parents and for calling Brittany a homewrecker on Facebook. I think I was pretty nice for not filing for alimony and for giving all of his stuff back in one piece and for offering to take him back. I lost my job, my husband, my house, and my puppies because my parents wouldn’t let me move the pups into their home. I’m pretty sure my husband had something to do with me getting fired so that he could secretly carry on his affair with his mistress. The worst part is my husband and Brittany moved in together two blocks from where I am living with my parents. I have to see their cars in the driveway every single day as a daily reminder and an added punch in the face. || I lost all of my coworkers as friends because somehow blaming the victim and trash talking about a wife who simply loved her husband and is now hurt is cool. Friends from work say I should have kept everything private and shouldn’t have publicly humiliated my husband or Brittany by exposing the truth. Here’s me writing to say screw you too. I am all about keeping things in a marriage private but that is BEFORE your spouse cheats, tries to keep it a secret, and refuses to give up the adulteress affair. My husband should have never gossiped about me at work or griped about his marriage to Brittany or whoever else. He should have never lied. He should have never cheated period. Here is to the truth being exposed! All in all… I will still work on forgiving them and will continue to pray for them after I have worked on my own healing.