My husband was in the military and got tdy orders to go to do some work out in Colorado. He was going out with people from his squadron who of course were all young. I guess she came up to him and or she was by him in this bar having a bad night she was”upset” and I later saw one of his e-mails saying”Thank you, I needed someone to talk to”. That is not how I found out though. He and I were better than we had been in a while and I with 4 boys was stressed a lot but tried to be as happy and stress free as I could be when he called and he was so nice. He must have been getting some from her then and I now understand why he was so nice, happy, and stress free as well. He came home and while he was gone I found out he was cheating so he came home and told his kids without any compassion, kindness, or concern for their feelings. He told them only that we didn’t get along and he was divorcing and then that was it. He got up got his things and I of course begging him (which I am sure he liked) to stay and how could he do this blah, blah, blah. Then to make it all so much worse for me I like a dumb ass call the whore and talk to her. She sounded so nice, and I cried and begged her to not do this and at least wait till the divorce was final. She agreed and my dumb ass believed her, she was so convincing I asked her to ignore John’s call, texts, and e-mails so he could make sure during this time it was what he absolutely needed and wanted to do. She of course said she would. || The cell phone he had was always in just my name and left it that way when we got married. I think it only took a few hrs. before I see on my son’s phone him texting and calling her and he doesn’t erase the crap. I was horrified thinking what if the kids saw these? I was so devastated. Even though things might have not been great they kids always had stability meaning we were just a military family stressed and had never thought or threatened divorce before. He left and moved in with a friend who I felt was both of ours (and mine to some degree). He kept all the money for himself for the most part paying utilities, food and saved or sent her the rest to move here. He got orders to Japan and clearly said he wasn’t taking me or the kids. He brought her here at Christmas and took the kids over to his friends where he was staying she was there but told the kids her name was Erica and they did say dad and her were friendly and playing around. I never thought it was her. I felt like his friend shouldn’t have allowed it but shit he is a guy, what was I thinking? || We got a divorce and he has been paying for it since. I took him to court and for 2 years he had to pay all they money back for things broke or were missing everything like broken doors where he had punched a hole in them, he had to pay for the computer he took and jewelry that was missing and the mortgage that had not gotten paid for a year. I asked the judge to include remodeling expenses that were not done. Before the divorce he was mad because I had asked him to stay with the boys for a few weeks so I can go visit family and he could bond before going to Japan. I had to come home because he was being abusive and neglectful and told the kids”He couldn’t wait to get on the plane he fucking hated them. During this short time with the kids before we were divorced he ON MOTHERS DAY WEEKEND brought he whore into town for the weekend and she stayed right in the house on the new bed I got since I felt it was tainted. I had put a combo lock /doorknob on my door so HE wouldn’t sleep on the bed. He snuck into the bedroom by breaking my bathroom door that leads to the outside and SNUCK HER INTO MYYYY HOUSE, IN FRONT OF MYYY KIDS, F**KED ON MY NEW BED AND TOLD THE KIDS THEY WERE NOT TO CALL OR TELL MOM ABOUT CARRI BEING THERE. Motherís day weekend no calls, which didn’t surprise me until 2:oo. They had taken the kids to the pier to fish, they took them to an amusement park and rode the one ride with one of my oldest sons and he didn’t want to say no and of course being a kid wanted to go on the ride. They tried to buy their love and make it seem so normal and happy. I asked him if THEY THOUGHT OF THE KIDS WHEN THEY WERE F**KING IN MY BED AT NIGHT. OR IF THEY THOUGHT ABOUT IF THEY WERE CONFUSED OR CRYING. He had no answer or response. || She moved here and he never came back except 2 times a year to see his kids no more than 3 hrs. at the most. He has received orders to England and told us only 3 days before he left saw only 2 of his boys and only for 15 minutes while they were at the doctorís office so really only spoke for 5 minutes. I believe she is partly responsible for the neglect with him seeing his boys. They left in August of 2013 and he has not spoken to his children or e-mailed them. One birthday for the youngest has come and past. He did e-mail me and say only these words”tell **** I love him” . Why he couldn’t e-mail his own son I do not know. || I am sure YOUR HUSBANDS ARE SAFE UNTIL SHE IS DONE WITH JOHN AND AT WHICH TIME I THINK SHE WILL BE BACK IN THE STATES AND WATCH OUT FOR HER STANK ASS. I am sad for the boys that our family even if it wasn’t perfectly happy. It was all they knew and I always told them people change and you change. The KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE IS TO TRY TO CHANGE TOGETHER AND / OR ACCEPT THE OTHER GROWING AND CHANGING IN LIFE. I believe he didn’t want to try when she was being a whore, making it new, fun and easy! I am so disappointed we have to watch out for these women. I am so disappointed that my life as a military wife of 15 years has no benefits but she has them all. I hate that she gets the comments like”THANK YOU FOR DOING WHAT YOU DO FOR THIS COUNTRY” HOLDING THE FAMILY TOGETHER AND BEING THERE FOR HIM AS HE GOES OVERSEA…WTF I AM THE ONE WHO DESERVES THAT! I AM THE ONE HERE WITH THE 4 BOYS WITHOUT HIS HELP. SHE HAS DONE NOTHING BUT LAY THERE FOR HIM. SHE IS A HOMEWRECKER IF EVER THERE IS ONE, SHE IS A WHORE !!!!!!!