In May of 2013 my husband approached me about purchasing a rental property. I know he has toyed with the idea. In the past and I felt like we were financially secure enough to look into it. After a couple of weeks debating the pros and cons I finally broached the subject of a tenant. Whom would he rent it to? He tossed out a couple of names of people who he knew were looking for a place to stay. Including one of his female employees who was looking to separate from her husband. || After some talk about the what ifs, I agreed to talk to her and offer her the place to rent if we purchased it. She readily agreed, she seemed so relieved to have an out from her”abusive” relationship. A place for her and her three young children to finally get away. || After purchasing the trailer, my husband without a second thought signed a two year deal with Direct TV for her even though I questioned the need for it. He told me he’d increase her rent to cover the bill. He didn’t. At the time I thought he did, but she was currently costing us $100 a month. Then he was concerned about furniture for her kids. She didn’t have beds or anything else, wanting to help I scoured thrift stores for cheap bunk beds. I came up empty handed and that’s a good thing. Her kids never moved in with her. She left them with this”abusive” father of theirs. || My husband was currently enrolled in college and soon enough so was she. Even taking the same classes as him. I was stunned to find this out, but wrote it off as the being in the same field of work. Next thing I know my husband is calling her constantly for help with her homework. I started to get suspicious. But was reassured by both there wasn’t anything going on. || She insisted my family was like family to her. On September 21, 2013 my husband and I went to Halloween Horror Nights with friends of ours. I felt sick after riding Harry Potter so my friend took me to sit in a restaurant and have some water and a small snack. My husband was with my friends’ husband and without notice walked off and disappeared for over 30 minutes. He was behaving oddly the whole night. || The next day I checked his phone and saw that he was texting Charlene the whole entire night and when he disappeared he was calling her. When I confronted him about it, he left the house for the night. He simply called me paranoid and told me I was a snoop and out to make sure I ruin any friendships he has. || The next day he texted me and told me that he cares about Charlene but that he would never betray my trust. He also asked for a divorce stating that he can’t be married to me anymore because I have never trusted him. He then called my friends and asked them to talk to me because I was depressed and he was at his wits end trying to get me help. || This went on for weeks. Somewhere in my heart I knew the truth, but was in denial. I believed him when he said those things about me. I talked about seeing a doctor and getting on medication. I talked about counseling for myself and started doing some real soul searching to find out when and how I became this monster. || Then I woke up. || His behavior was so guilty and”off” that’s when I started suspecting things weren’t what he said. I got to work. I cracked his new pass code on his phone but found he had been deleting parts of texts because the conversations were disjointed with her. There seemed to be pieces missing. It took weeks of us back and forth, him trying to convince me he was working on our marriage but didn’t know if he should stay with someone who is so mentally unstable. || Thanksgiving day 2013, I discovered his iCloud backup for his iPhone. Including all the filthy deleted texts. The horrible I love you’s the descriptions of having sex in the stockroom at work. The talk of how they had sex, where they had sex and what they did to each other. || It was like getting hit in the stomach. On one hand I feel like chains fell off of me, I no longer was in denial. I had no confusion left. I knew how horrible my husband and this woman were. He introduced her into my life, my children’s life and his family’s life and lied to us all. The affair had been going on so long I felt sick to my stomach. I had proof of it existing months before she left her husband and moved into our property. She left her husband for mine. || My husband emptied his closet yesterday and moved into his Dad’s, still claiming that I’m mentally unstable and grasping at straws. Charlene told me she was sleeping with him and that she’ll never leave him. He’s abandoned his kids the same way she abandoned hers.