I was married to my now ex-husband for almost 17 years we were together for almost 19 years we have three children two of which are from a previous marriage and the third we had together. One day in July of 2013 we went out to the mall and thought everything was going fine well to my surprise he told me he was bored, he wanted to do things whatever that meant because he always sat on his ass whenever it came to doing anything with his family, he said it wasn’t me it was him. Then he came out and said he loves me but he wasn’t in love with me he was in love with the person I was 18 years ago. But he wanted to work at our marriage and rekindle that. || Well from that point on things just starting getting worse, his whole attitude changed, the way he treated me and his kids was like we were trash. There was constant fighting and breaking me down by saying I was the cause for everything that happened in his life. He got me to the point that I felt like I was nothing, I was worthless and I did anything and everything for him. I put him on a pedestal. I was always true and faithful to him it was never ever a thought in my mind but when you break a person down as much as he did me with nothing but emotional and mental abuse, well I could not believe that all this was happening. We always said to one another that neither one of us was never going anywhere and that we would die together. Well with all his breaking down of me drove me to attempting suicide not once but twice. So after the second attempt he had me put in a psychiatric ward for a couple of days but little does he know that was the best thing he had done for me in a long time. Once that happened he was constantly using it against me. || He would constantly talk about this thing he worked with, she starting texting him all hours of the night and his cell phone was like his holy grail, always on lockdown. When I finally said to him why is she texting you all hours of the night for one you’re a married man and she is a married woman. Well it got to the point that I sent her a text and well they found another way to text back and forth without me knowing as they would play this game on there cell phones with one another. He kept saying they were just friends she is married, then he started saying that I was right he understands how it looks and it wasn’t anything at all. || Well he started going out after work and I didn’t care, but coming home at 3, 4 and seven in the morning and saying he was out with the guys I knew was a big fat lie. It so happens it was all a lie. It finally got to the point I knew I had to do something because with me sending texts to her telling her stay the heck away from my husband was not working. Neither of them cared. Not for nothing we were going to her and her husbands home for cookouts and she befriended me. || So without him knowing I hired an attorney and a PI through my attorney filed for a divorce and was having him served as soon as the investigation was complete. The first night of the investigation there was evidence he was in fact having an affair with her his coworker, the second night of the investigation there was more evidence, this affair had been going on at their place of work and they were going to bars together in which she was spitting back in January that they were having this affair. So once I got the word from my attorney about what evidence was found the day I found out I was also moving out with out his knowing. Until I confronted him he played the dumb roll like I was lying about everything even when I said I had the evidence. A video and he still denied but then would come out with things that happened the second night of the evidence. So that day I found out I moved out with my children. His own son said to his father he disowned him and he was a piece of crap. || He drove me to almost killing myself, he drove my oldest son 2000 miles away because my son didn’t want to be around him anymore, he drove my daughter to leaving home because she couldn’t take his emotional and mental abuse anymore but she came back to me when she found out that I had tried to kill myself and he was driving our other son the same way. The mental and emotional abuse he was doing to all of us. So we got out, left him with absolutely nothing and he was served divorce papers the day after we left. My divorce became final 06/20/2014 and we are now free of his lying, cheating, mentally and emotionally abusing ass. || As for her well he moved in with her a week after her husband moved out. What a joke… They still carry on their lie and go to work at the same place with each other and probably still carry on their little charade but i do believe Karma works in strange ways and all that these two have put me and my children through, will come back to them both ten folds. || I hope it was worth losing everything for what you settled for now.