My husband met Courtney Brewer Sherdel in June 2011 at an event organized by his employer. At that time she was married to her 1st husband and her name was Courtney Brewer Hundertmark. The annual event is a 200 mile relay run over 3 days in honor of an employee who passed away from ALS. They were in need of a runner for their team and since Courtney is a runner, she was invited by a co-worker of my husband’s to join their team. My husband, Jim and Courtney made a connection over the 3 days. Upon his return to work the following Monday, Courtney had sent Jim an email asking him to lunch. Initially he ignored her email (so he says) but she reached out to him again and he accepted. || When the affair started we had just celebrated our 14 year anniversary. She knew he was married with a family and likewise he knew she was married with a family. In their own sick way, they both felt like destroying the lives of innocent people, including their own children, somehow made sense. She admitted to him that she had had an affair in the past. As it turns out, Jim was her 3rd affair (possibly more but she only got caught in 3 at that point). Jim was very confused and had a difficult time choosing between me or her. She got impatient and dumped him for affair #4 who she just married. At one point she was manipulating Jim, working on the 4th affair and going to marriage counseling with her own (now ex) husband. Pretty pathetic. || The affair went on for about 2.5 months before I found out about it. It fizzled out a little once I learned about it but in total it went on for about 8 months. It was a heavy emotional affair. The night I found out, I put Jim out. The next morning I spoke to Jim and asked him if we were going to try to work this out and his first words were,”We have feelings for each other.” He had gotten himself involved in a serious emotional affair and had a very difficult time disengaging from it. It was one lie after another for 8 months. || I came across her email address and wrote to her directly politely asking her to leave my family alone – let Jim and I work this out – we have young children who stand to be hurt. She basically told me it was not my decision – it was up to Jim. || I will spare all of the details because they are lies, lies lies….. You’ve heard it before. We are still together for now but it is a very different marriage. We have gone to counseling, etc…… But after 3 years I am still trying to figure this out. I have not forgiven him nor have I forgotten. He shows no remorse – just wants to forget it ever happened. It is difficult for me to move past this as quickly as he has since I read a ton of disgusting emails between the two of them. I wonder how he would feel if the roles were reversed. || She got engaged in April 2014. Once I found out she was engaged, I sent her a letter. Here it is: || Dear Courtney – || I looked at your Facebook page and see that you and Chris are now engaged. It is hard to believe that you are actually considering marriage again knowing how royally you screwed up your first marriage. You admitted this yourself. I doubt Chris knows how destructive you can be but in time I am sure he will find out. Hopefully your next affair won’t be with a married man with young children. You have a strong ability to manipulate people for your own selfish gain. You did this with Jim and he took your bait. His fault for his poor judgment and he is living with the consequence of his stupid actions. He knew he was not your first or second affair. || You should know that Jim and I have been unsuccessful at recovering from him affair with you. I just know too much of the details which is unfortunate. This has been a horrible experience for me, my family and his family. We are still together for the moment but really, how much does a marriage mean once it has been compromised and vows broken? I doubt you get that. || I DO NOT appreciate you forcing yourself into my marriage causing a division between me and Jim and our girls. You knew nothing about me or him or what we were dealing with between us. You had no idea of the issues he contributed to in our marriage and he falsely represented himself as did you. You both have acted as if you were the victims when actually you are the problem. Perhaps he shared his unhappiness with you – not sure – he never shared that with me but he was less than a stellar husband on many fronts which makes his decision to have an affair hypocritical and mind-boggling. I doubt he shared any of my frustrations (about him) with you and honestly any wife would have gotten fed up with him. I do not know and do not care what problems you and your husband had between the two of you. If you were so unhappy you should have left soon and hurt less people along the way. Our issues could have very easily been resolved pre-affair. Now it is almost impossible. I hope this is something that sticks with you for a very long time. You are a very self-consumed, selfish person. I am sorry that your kids were hurt by Jim. I hope they see your behavior for what it is – a poor example of what a mother should be.