Cynthia Cruz & Rogelio Claros Silver Spring, Maryland Maryland

I have learned a lot in the last 2 years about my husband, I have learned that he should have never been given chances after chances. I have realized I deserved better than him and the treatment I allowed him to inflict on me. I have realized that I cannot trust anyone now thanks to him! Thanks to him I no longer believe people are good! I am always paranoid someone just wants to hurt me now. This man and woman truly deserve each other they are both really despicable people with no Empathy for anyone. || 7 Years ago I married Rogelio Claros, We dated, but rushed into things and rushed into marriage way too fast. In the beginning he showed me a loving, caring man who accepted my children as his own. He was different from most of the exes I had been used to being with. I normally would get with someone who didn’t really want to spend time with me, only come around when they wanted to. I had really given up on the idea of a serious relationship before meeting him and had gone sev

I have learned a lot in the last 2 years about my husband, I have learned that he should have never been given chances after chances. I have realized I deserved better than him and the treatment I allowed him to inflict on me. I have realized that I cannot trust anyone now thanks to him! Thanks to him I no longer believe people are good! I am always paranoid someone just wants to hurt me now. This man and woman truly deserve each other they are both really despicable people with no Empathy for anyone. || 7 Years ago I married Rogelio Claros, We dated, but rushed into things and rushed into marriage way too fast. In the beginning he showed me a loving, caring man who accepted my children as his own. He was different from most of the exes I had been used to being with. I normally would get with someone who didn’t really want to spend time with me, only come around when they wanted to. I had really given up on the idea of a serious relationship before meeting him and had gone several years without someone serious in my life. After meeting him things changed for me, I really believed he was sent to me by God, he was the answer I had been looking for and I felt happy once again. I hadn’t felt that alive for a long time. I looked forward to the weekends when we were able to spend time together due to him being stationed a hour away we didn’t get to see each other during the week. Eventually things got more serious and he asked me to marry him. I of course said yes, I ended up having to quit my job due to my son being injured at child care. He had broke his Femur and needed constant care he wasn’t able to walk, bath or take care of himself at all. Rogelio was there for him and me the whole time, he began to drive the car back and forth every day so he could be there to help me more and be there. I was so proud of my soon to be husband he was perfect! || Prior to us marrying I was told that Cynthia had had an affair while he was deployed in Iraq during his first tour while serving in the Military. He said that she moved another soldier into the home, got pregnant by him and took his savings from his account. He seemed really upset about this while telling me what had happened and at one point did become a bit emotional. He told me that she was his first love and that she had hurt him and had served him while downrange divorce papers. During our engagement we had been looking for Apartments up North near his Base about 1 hour from my home town. He had discussed how Cynthia liked to party a lot with her Sister and friends and how she was hardly ever home. He said that caused a lot of problems in their marriage, and that he felt Cynthia wasn’t a good Mom. He told me some other things that made me a bit more uncomfortable he said that during them being divorced she and him had had sex prior even when she was in other relationships and that at one point she got pregnant with his child, which he wanted to keep, but she choose to end the pregnancy and he was very upset about that. He has always wanted a boy and he thought maybe that could have been his boy. He said her mom still liked him and always thought he was a good guy. || But what he failed to tell me that I later found out was from Cynthia herself. He had also cheated on her. He had given her a STD as well and came home giving her medicine to take after he found out he had it. I found out that he had been previously not able to join the Military due to him having contracted Syphilis when he was 18 (he told me that, so I am thinking this may have been that time, but not positive) So if it wasn’t that means he has had STD’s prior to this as well! He always had some excuse for why he acted stupid or did something. He rarely talked about any other relationships other than places he had lived prior while he was separated etc. || We eventually got married moved up North and immediately he changed. I didn’t know what was going on, but I thought maybe he was pushing me away due to the deployment. I had been told they can change before and after a deployment and that its a way of them coping. I was new to the Military wife stuff and had no clue and nobody to talk to and ask either. So I assumed that was it and I tried to be there for him, but I would get so hurt. He started rejecting me he didn’t want to have sex with me and made me feel I wasn’t pretty anymore. He complained when I wasn’t working, so I finally found a job and things just got worse. He would fight with me all the time or just ignore me if I accused him of anything. I had recently found pics of his Ex wife on a laptop and confronted him. The laptop was brand new I had bought it for him after we got married so we had a way to communicate when he went to Germany or on his Deployment, I began to get funny messages from a lady named Anna that claimed she was going to sleep with my husband soon and that he wanted a divorce. I was shocked I had never thought my husband would be like this! The person I trusted the most in life had betrayed me! I found pics of woman on his phone of their breasts and I ended up contacting the Chaplain we had some marriage counselling and things were revealed that I had never known, b/c he really doesn’t communicate (he hates to talk about our problems. He would rather pretend they aren’t there) I would beg for him to talk and he refused. but I found out he was addicted to porn, Online dating sites and cheating! I found out his own father had cheated on his mother. || The first deployment with my husband was pure HELL with him. It was such an emotional roller coaster ride. He was talking to an ex girlfriend wanting a divorce and told me on my birthday (Happy Birthday to me) Ever single Holiday he ruined after we got married. He always managed to make it miserable for all of us. But at the end of the deployment I had planned on leaving him and he begged for me to stay and he promised to get help. I bought it, and believed maybe it was the deployment creating this monster and now that it was over with maybe things would get better between us and we could get the help we needed. Because prior to the deployment while working with the Chaplain things were starting to get better. || We moved to Germany where he got stationed and found out he was to deploy once again, he was worried this would be his 4th deployment. Deployments always created stress in our marriage, but we were doing much better this time around. I thought maybe we finally were on the same page and able to get through this deployment without any problems. In January 2012 I got a call from my Family member from the states she was hysterical my Dad got killed on the job. I was devastated, my husband was downrange it was 2am and I was alone in another country. I contacted him through the Emergency channels set in place for situations like this and he was able to get Emergency leave, but that night he had called and reassured me he would never hurt me again, he loved me so much and had never had someone like me be there for him. He promised to never leave/hurt/cheat on me. I begged him that night to never hurt me and leave me I told him I couldn’t stand to lose another person in my life. Not to mention, I was always so worried what could happen to him downrange and I was always scared to answer that door anytime someone knocked on it. I was always afraid something bad would happen to him which I think makes it even harder when you’re going through all this kind of stuff because it makes you hold onto that person even stronger. You just never know when or if something will happen to your loved ones. The one man who has always been there for me, the one man who would hug me and make everything better had just died and to this day, I miss him more than anyone! I need him and he isn’t there. My husband came home and things were okay, but we went on vacation and shit hit the fan. He went to see his brother and kids and didn’t bother telling me he had other plans during our vacation which we were to meet back up after a few days. Instead he went to El Salvador! Leaving me with NO money, NO way to the airport. His attitude was horrible, he was being so selfish. After all this shit I have been through with him he is going to act like this. I had no clue what had just happened for almost 2 years we were doing good and now this again????? We went back to Germany after that I thought things were okay, we did argue a lot due to disagreements, but of course I thought it was due to the deployment. I tried to get him to talk to someone but he refused. I called people to try to get him help but nobody cared. I truly believe he may have gotten PTSD due to losing someone very close to him downrange. His behavior was different, this person I hadn’t seen before and he began to scare me. He had threatened to hit me at one point during our vacation when I “annoyed him” by my arguing after he got into a rage he couldn’t find the freeway and I asked him to pull over to get the GPS out of the suitcase. I just didn’t see the need to get so worked up over that, but after that I was scared of my husband. I had never been scared of him till then. || He began to lose it, he was drinking and once again while he was driving we were arguing over something and he threatened to hit me again, raising his hand to me. I thought this person would go away, I didn’t like this guy! I tried getting him help more and still nothing. He began to drink a lot, He began to go out and come home with no wedding ring on. He would stay at the Barracks when we got into fights and stay out with single soldiers. He began to drink and drive too which really worried me. I was worried he would kill someone or himself or end up in a German jail. He got removed from the home after he came home and flipped out destroying my bed I had bought with the money I got from my dad passing. I was really hurt by that I felt he knew that was special to me and did it to hurt me. While in the Barracks he was out of the home and I was hoping they would get him help which I had been told would happen. He was sent back into the home and hadn’t gotten any help what so ever. Something happened in this time that really hurt me. He had gotten so out of hand that once again I had to have him removed legal matters were involved and he was looking at possibly going to jail and losing his career. His spiraling out of control had taken a toll on everyone including me! I had given him the ultimatum prior to this and told him GET HELP or I turn you in for what he had done to me! He decided to make fun of the situation and mock me. Instead of taking responsibility for the Mental, Sexual abuse he had done to me he made fun of me and told me to lock my doors instead which I couldn’t due to him having all the keys locked up in the room he was staying in. After I did turn him in for the assault I was told by Cynthia in not such a nice letter that I was being vindictive and that basically that wouldn’t help anyone she would end up losing her kids father and he would end up leaving to go back to El Salvador which he had threatened to do so many times before! I know they were talking at this time, he wasn’t suppose to talk to me at all, but eventually he got a hold of me telling me he missed us and wanted to talk to me, I never wanted him to get in trouble! I wanted him to get help! I am not sure why they cannot understand that. I ended up falling for it again though, I took him back he promised to get help and he did and I thought he meant it this time. He was going back to his old self and showed me he loved me, but after he quickly realized coming back to me wasn’t going to resolve his issues he decided he didn’t want to be married once again and wanted a divorce. || At this time I had been feeling something wasn’t quite right with him and Cynthia they had been talking A lot on his Cell phone. She was always sending messages and when we were together she would say Ok she would talk to him later. I was beginning to get mad about it and felt they were being shady! After I finally was able to leave him and Germany (on the way to the airport, I walked away from him without telling him goodbye or anything) he began sending me messages of him crying saying he loved me and was sorry and didn’t know what he was doing. The whole time prior to me leaving for months I refused to sleep with him after he started making me feel he was using me, but I have so many screenshots of this asshole asking me for sex time and time and time again! Even after I left he wanted me to send him pictures I would be discussing bills to have him send pics of his penis. This guy is seriously a sick pig! And after all this shit, I find out these two are together!!! She had changed her status in August that they were together. (Obviously he never meant to be faithful during this time or he wouldn’t have been asking me for sex over and over again!!! Which yes there were times I caved because I missed him!) He also was caught trying to get another girl to have sex with him though around this time too. I know I was stupid for staying as long as I did. So maybe she shouldn’t feel so damn special. I am sure once the “newness” wears off he will be back to his old games again! || I personally cannot believe he loves her! All this time being reminded what horrible things she did to him, and how he wanted me to support him while he went to school which I told him I was unable to do due to the fact I don’t make enough even if I worked FT to support all of us. I find it funny, he finally got one of his exes to fall for his games! This woman made me feel like I was stupid for staying and would tell me I should have left him a long time ago, but now look her ass is with him too! She continuously posts pics of them together or makes her shit public and I am not stupid she is rubbing it in that she is a dirty nasty homewrecking whore! I am sure every time he sleeps with you he thinks of the man who was sleeping in his bed while he was deployed, I am sure every time he looks at your youngest child he is reminded of the affair, so don’t think you’re that damn special for him to forget because I was clearly reminded our whole marriage what a dirty whore you were and how he didn’t trust woman because of you! I am so glad to be away from that Narcissist and you can laugh your pretty little head when you think I am joking about him being a Narcissist BUT just you wait and see, I am sure he has much more in store for you! He is always one step ahead and he always has a plan why he is with someone! It’s to use them for whatever they have that he wants! || Before anyone says you’re so stupid for staying. I already feel enough shame I don’t need to be reminded of that. I know I stayed too long, but I feel me staying that long has taught me one hell of a lesson and I do believe in a way my husband did help me realize what I do not deserve in life! I now suffer from C-PTSD, Severe Depression and Anxiety thanks to him. I cannot trust anyone, and I am constantly reminded by these things when something or a place reminds me of him. I have nightmares of him with someone else and him laughing at me. I try to leave him behind and let him be, but after being completely abandoned by your spouse 6 months ago things do take time. And not to mention the bills he has left for me to pay that he promised to pay while he lavishes you with flowers. purses. WTF am I suppose to be happy about that shit? How would you feel? All I wanted wasto have a good marriage and someone to love me! I tried my best to make him happy, I tried my best and that is all I could have done. So at least I can live with that knowing I did my best! I am happy to be rid of someone who didn’t see me as a priority! I know I deserve better. I would rather be alone the rest of my life than to live that Hell ever again. I just wish I would have learned my lesson sooner and not wasted so much time on him. || I think the one thing that makes this hurt so much is the fact I trusted Cynthia out of all his Exes she was the one I trusted. I actually befriended her and tried to be good to her kids. I never did the things that you claimed (the messages sent, that was all Rogelio) He didn’t want us being friends! He won, he made sure that didn’t happen by pretending to be me on my FB page sending mean letters to your kids. What father would do something like that if he wasn’t mentally screwed up! Seriously use your head and think about it? If he can do that to his own kids what more is he capable of doing to you? || But I will leave you Cynthia & Rogelio with the words Cynthia sent me in the end after I turned him in for assault “You guys made your bed, now lie in it” sound very fitting for a Homewrecker too!! || || || >

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