I guess my story is starting out just as the same as many other stories on this page. I had no clue what was going on until it was too late. My husband and I had been together for 7 years total. Three married and four dating. || It started in July of 2013. My husband had just gotten a new job. He had been laid off and was not working for about two months. When he got a job he was excited. He had to attend a training that was lasting about 6 weeks that was held in Phoenix. He could come home on the weekends and he did every weekend. I was also about 12 weeks pregnant at the time. He started to carpool with someone at the training, the whore, which I did not know at this time. Sometime around week two of the training he started sleeping with her. She also did not start attending the training until week two. Every other week I would hand deliver him to her. He made me see her every other week when I would dropped him off and pick him up. This went on all through the rest of the training. I had asked him during the training if anything was going on. I thought maybe it was my crazy pregnant hormones and he stated that nothing was going on. On the weekends he was attentive at times but would often would spend time alone in a different room. Things were still uneasy with us when he was back home full time. He all of sudden wanted to do things with friends that he had not done in a while. It wasn’t often just every couple of weeks. He also went on a”camping” trip In September of 2013 over Labor Day weekend. Little did I know he rented a room in the town we live in so he could have a get away with her. || I did not find out about this until October 2013. I had been having a bad feeling about this since the training and kept asking him but he would blow it off and say it was my hormones. So then on October 4, 2013 I looked at his phone. I felt so guilty doing so but then I saw all the evidence that I needed. Text messages to and from and millions of phone calls. All the phone calls were late at night when I was sleeping. The greatest text was from her talking about a fantasy she had about being taken in a Wal-mart parking lot. Real classy. He wasn’t any better with his response,”I don’t care, as long as you are bare ass”. I would have never thought my husband would do this to me. He was the kindest, gentlest person in the world. I confronted him about it and he confirmed it. I threw him out. I asked him to make a decision. He stated that it was always me and he had lost a part of himself and was afraid of being a father. Well I tried to make it work. We went to counseling. Then in December of 2013 I saw in his email something sent to her. It was a birthday wish and he wanted to be there to celebrate with her. He sent it on 12/3/13 at 12:03 AM. She of course replied. I kicked him out again. He said that I had not been giving him enough attention and that everything was focused on the baby. So sorry that me creating life left you a little left out but I was going through a lot and still had not trusted him, with good reason obviously. Well being a stupid idiot I allowed him to come back home. We were sleeping in separate bedrooms. I had the baby and he was there. || Well in July I was having a tough time because it was a year since everything had happened and I was getting this weird vibe again from him. I was checking the phone statements to see if there had been any calls but nothing. I finally blew up and told him to just go and be with his whore if that was what he really wanted. So he did. He called me one night after work and stated that since I don’t want him he was not coming home. He was going to be with her. So not only did I have to deal with that but I was dealing with a very cranky baby while he was telling me all this. He came home the next morning and said he wanted to talk. I told him I didn’t want to. I hate violence but just seeing him made me so anger that I slapped him. He stated that woke him up from this nightmare that he has been living in. He said that I showed him passion and he knew that things would work out between us. He stated that he never loved her and that she was the biggest mistake of his life. He said he wished he had never met her. || I still don’t know what I am going to do. I care about him but I know I don’t love him anymore. I guess I am just trying to figure out what is going to be best for me. He says that he will show me all the reasons why I fell in love him. I guess I want to see if he can really show me. I know I am an idiot for even thinking about staying. Oh yeah and get this, she is a decade older then him with two children. She has an 18 year old girl and a 13 year old boy. I had found her on Facebook and we exchanged a few messages. The last message she sent me was saying she was sorry. She has since blocked me from both Facebook pages. Oh yeah, she is still trying to get in touch with my husband. Today she emailed him. He tells me every single minute of his day and texts me if she tries to contact him. I don’t know if I will try and make it work. I know that I am stupid for trying. I tell him that nothing will ever be the same and that I can’t love him because of how much pain he has caused. He says that it gives him hope that he knows I love him. He says he will use the rest of the time he has me to make me see that he is a good man and the right man for me.