I was married to my now soon to be ex-husband. While I was married to him I found out about this other girl and when I caught him he assured me it was over between them and that would be the end of it, but yet it wasn’t. She knew all about me and that I had lost our first baby together, yet that didn’t stop her. She hated me all the while and only wished bad things upon me. He was a marine and we moved away and I thought that was the end of that, but things didn’t end. When I was pregnant with our daughter he had left his phone behind and I found messages between them. I also found messages to the other women wondering how their life would have been if they had taken it to another level. Then this Daisy called him private when we would make trips to see his mom just to ask if I had gone with him. It was more like she was the one that wasn’t over him. Always obsessing over where he was and what we were doing, well I was married to him but yet she hung on every move that my life made. || I made a choice then and there, while pregnant, I left him. I don’t know when it all started exactly because his sister one day asked me if I ever knew he had her, but like I told her if he’s calling me every day and every night how could I have ever known someone else existed. I had his work numbers and everything. I also wonder how it was he was living a double life all the while I had asked for a divorce and him begging me not to do it. I even have emails and text messages and nights where he would call crying, begging and singing to me. Where was this non existing girlfriend when he was calling me all hours of the night? I saved it all in case I needed it for court purposes. || He would totally harass me and it felt like it was never ending. He did end up with the first girl that I knew about and she now has a son with him. But I don’t understand how they say I’m the uncivil one if all I do is keep communication about my daughter. She doesn’t like him to ask for my daughter and while she was pregnant with their son, he came to the town I live in, begging me for another chance. He told me the only way he could have a relationship with my daughter was if I gave him another chance because this other girl wouldn’t allow him to have that if he was going to be with him. I still said no I wouldn’t. Why should I, if I couldn’t even trust the man. Ok but yet she goes off the deep end time and time again talking so much hatred on me all because of what? I don’t get it, I did nothing to her. She’s caught him calling me at 3am and texting me apologizing for the things he’s done, yet she’s mad at me, telling me that I’m not over him? I don’t want him. if I did I would’ve stayed with him. || Being uncivil is what I don’t understand either. I have told her to watch him closer when it comes to looking for me as in being able to have a relationship with me. I want it strictly to be about our daughter and nothing to be what once was about me and him. I’ve told her when he doesn’t leave me alone and I’ve even had to change my phone number but yet she says she can’t wait until Karma comes back to get me. She wants me to suffer for something I didn’t even do. Whats her real problem? I just want total freedom from my past so that I can move on, that’s why I want my divorce and furthermore she says that’s she’s always telling him to look for our daughter but if she over reacts about a photo that went through late in the evening because my phone hadn’t been able to get service in the area I was in, so it wasn’t sent until that evening… she jumped on my ass through a text telling me that if its not early in the day not to be sending him anything. I did tell her my daughter lives beyond the normal business hours of the day. She breathes before and after 9am and 5pm. she didn’t like that. I had to get an attorney just so that if she has more to state about me he can get her for slander and harassment. || I’ve not wanted him for a while but how about he actually lets me divorce him and shows up to court when he’s supposed to instead of telling me he can’t get everything together? I think there needs to be some type of evaluation done if “he” always seems to find a way NOT to divorce me.