Dana Scott Steubenville, Ohio Ohio

One of the worst phone calls a wife can receive is from her husband’s mistress. My phone call came at 11:30pm just as I settled on the couch to watch a movie with my husband. Not only was his mistress his receptionist, but she was 5 months pregnant with a boy. I instantly went into shock and started shaking. My world had just been rocked and quite possibly changed forever with a simple phone call. Around September 2009 I had a”feeling” my husband was having an affair and we even discussed/fought over whether his receptionist was his mistress. I had even sent her a text in 9/2009 asking her if she was screwing my husband and she said no. HOW DID WE GET TO THIS POINT? How did my soul mate and I drift so far apart? || The affair began in June 2009 and my husbands office was over an hour away and we had friends who lived close by, so I told him to save on gas money and stay with our friends. Apparently, there were nights he obviously wasn’t staying with our frien

One of the worst phone calls a wife can receive is from her husband’s mistress. My phone call came at 11:30pm just as I settled on the couch to watch a movie with my husband. Not only was his mistress his receptionist, but she was 5 months pregnant with a boy. I instantly went into shock and started shaking. My world had just been rocked and quite possibly changed forever with a simple phone call. Around September 2009 I had a”feeling” my husband was having an affair and we even discussed/fought over whether his receptionist was his mistress. I had even sent her a text in 9/2009 asking her if she was screwing my husband and she said no. HOW DID WE GET TO THIS POINT? How did my soul mate and I drift so far apart? || The affair began in June 2009 and my husbands office was over an hour away and we had friends who lived close by, so I told him to save on gas money and stay with our friends. Apparently, there were nights he obviously wasn’t staying with our friends. He was with his mistress. The reason she called me was because my husband had broken things off 2 weeks prior and she finally realized he was serious and he wasn’t leaving myself or the children for her and the new baby. I also knew something was up whenever my diamond bracelet went missing from our jewelry box. || Back to the night of the phone call. The OW tells me to look on his key chain and there was the key to her apartment and I can’t tell you why, but I made my husband drive me to her house that night. Keep in mind we are living with my parents and my mom answered the phone and the OW told my parents EVERYTHING before I even got on the phone! I was totally nuts in the car during the ride…screaming, cursing. DO YOU LOVE HER? NO. ARE YOU HAPPY ABOUT THE PREGNANCY? NO. We arrived at her apartment (and my dad had followed me because my parents weren’t letting my husband back into their house. This meant I had to drive home because I called our friends with whom my husband was supposedly staying with and he came to pick up my husband at the OW’s place). Once we arrived the OW came outside and started hitting and punching my husband. The OW said…THIS MUST BE YOURS and I noticed my diamond bracelet on her wrist and said…I’LL TAKE THAT and proceeded to take back my jewelry and then we exchanged phone numbers because we wanted to keep in touch. I wasn’t thinking at this point because my world was moving at lightning speed, I couldn’t keep up and I was an emotional wreck. I was extremely calm towards the OW during the phone call and even once we arrived at her apartment. It wasn’t until a few days later that I started hating the OW and calling her to get her side of the story. || Since the OW was my husband’s receptionist and she had met myself and my children numerous times during our visits to my husband’s office. There “relationship” was off and on for 14 months. We would show up at the office, she would play with my kids, offer to watch my children so my husband and I could have date night (we never took her up on the offer), send movies home for me to watch and talk to me at the office. Of course after I found out about the affair and later called the OW and she told me…HE WAS HAPPY ABOUT THE PREGNANCY, HE TOLD ME HE WAS LEAVING YOU, HE TOLD ME YOU HIT HIM AND YOU’RE A TERRIBLE MOTHER. WE WENT BABY SHOPPING TOGETHER AND HE BOUGHT A FEW ITEMS FOR THE BABY. || According to my husband none of this is true and I later found out she did lie to me. How did I find out? The OW told me she had lied. I finally decided to leave her alone because she couldn’t be trusted either and would do anything to sabotage my marriage and family. She didn’t care that my children would lose their dad whenever she got pregnant. The OW even accepted my friend request on FB a few times and that’s where I read my husband and his mistress did the same things that he did with me. For example…we went to the symphony, the movies, shopping then they would do the same. I was also told that whenever he went to the grocery store or to the gym he was actually stopping at her apartment. Once again I don’t know who to believe because my husband denies these accusations. But it’s no longer important. I would even text her occasionally because I thought we could still work things out and be friends and be part of the baby’s life. But then there were times I would text her simply text the OW to fuck with her mind because I wanted her to feel the same pain I was feeling. || I hated my husband once I found out about the affair, but immediately following the news I wanted to be close to him. I wanted answers, I wanted revenge, I wanted him to hurt just as much as I was hurting, I wanted the OW to hurt emotionally/mentally just as much as I was hurting. Here I was picking up the pieces of my life, my marriage and this young woman is posting photos of her pregnant belly and how happy she was because she always wanted to be a mother. I kept thinking…HOW CAN YOU BE PROUD? HOW CAN YOU BE HAPPY? My husband had an affair with you and now you’re pregnant to a married man who has 2 children. THIS ENTIRE SITUATION IS COMPLETELY FUCKED UP. My husband was selfish whenever he decided to have an affair. I realized that while I was home caring for our 2 children he was off playing boyfriend to the OW, and whenever that hit me I went nuts and started yelling…AGAIN. I never argued with him in front of the children because they didn’t need to be involved in an adult situation. There were plenty of times I nearly bit my tongue off because as time went on I would realize lies he told me in the past. Lies such as I have to work late and he was with the OW. As much as I hated the OW in the beginning, My husband was the one who knowingly had a family and decided to destroy it and all the trust I had in him the minute he started the affair. She fell for his actions and she didn’t care either. If you remember I stated earlier that I learned about the affair in September 2010 and it took me until last spring to get over everything and finally release all of my anger and move forward. It was time and if I couldn’t let go of the anger it was going to kill me, my dreams and my family. All I ever wanted was for the OW to suffer the same emotional pain I felt. I never thought my marriage would’ve been rocked and wrecked by an affair. I will never ever be able to wrap my head around the idea of getting pregnant to a married man (he was at fault as well…no fucking condom, not making sure she was taking birth control), being happy, sharing the news with everyone, sharing photos of your pregnant belly on FB and being excited. One day this little boy won’t be so little and what are you going to tell him about his conception? Are you going to tell you had an affair and the man has 2 other children? Only time will tell and we do not have any contact with the OW and should her son ever show up at our door or contact us that’s when we’ll deal with the situation. || Quote from the OW on FB… “The happiest day of my life was the day I saw 2 pink lines on the pregnancy stick.” And all I could think was are you fucking kidding me? You know this man has a wife and 2 children that he comes home to, attends his daughters horseback riding lessons every Friday night and you let everyone know how sad and bored you are on weekends because your “boyfriend” has to work. (He wasn’t working. He was with his wife and children). She never posted any photos of her boyfriend and any time someone asked why not she made up and excuse…I’M PISSED AT HIM OR I’M GOING TO TOMORROW. How could this young woman be happy to be breaking up a home? How could my husband sleep with another woman and then get her pregnant? Remember I found out about the affair in September 2009 and she’s due in January 2010. || Fast forward to December 2009 and we’ve relocated for my husband’s job. Come December the OW starts talking to me and I thought maybe we could actually be friends. The OW goes to the hospital to be induced and I know this because she sent me a text or I sent her a text asking if she had the baby. The HW told my husband he could come to the hospital. Then I call her and tell her that my husband doesn’t want anything to do with her or the baby. Once the baby is born she wants to visit us at our house, and we can all go to the Columbus Zoo this summer and won’t it be exciting as we sit on the bleachers and cheer the boys on as they play sports on the same team and coached by my husband. About a week or two after the baby was born she sent a text to what she thought was my husband’s cell phone saying…”Come meet us. You don’t have to tell your family where your going.” I was beyond pissed whenever I read this message. My husband stood right next to me and called her and told her no. LET’S BACK THE FUCK UP HERE because in December she tried to convince me she didn’t want anything to do with my husband and simply wanted her son to know his siblings, his step mother and his dad. At first I was stupid and believed her and then I caught onto her act. Once I caught on she started telling me things about herself…she pulls her own hair out from the roots and pulls it out until she has bald spots, she has self hate issues, she’s been arrested for theft and drugs in another state and I couldn’t believe what I was hearing She only wanted my husband to be in the baby’s life if she could come around as well. She couldn’t even come up with an original first name or middle name. My husband is (middle name after his father), my son has a name similar to my husband and his middle name is after his grandpap. And now this girl has given her son a name that rhymes with my husband’s name and ( middle name after her late father). She did not give him my husbands last name and it was a while before we heard from her again. || The summer 2011 I went through this period of maybe my husband should be in the little boy’s life. I kept telling my husband…YOU NEED TO BE PART OF HIS LIFE. YOU MADE HIM AND NOW YOU SHOULD PLAY A ROLE IN HIS LIFE. Reluctantly, he agreed to meet her and the baby. He did this three times and our children weren’t there during these meetings and after the last time my husband said no more. He didn’t have the same bond with the new baby as he did with our son. I was so tired of her by now and I had been trying to tell her my husband changed his mind and wanted nothing to do with the baby and why. She went ballistic after I sent her messages between my husband and I concerning his role in the child’s life and how he kept expressing in PM’s that he wanted nothing to do with the baby. Then came the story of…WHILE I WAS VISITING WITH THE BABY ONE DAY WE HAD SEX, BUT I TOOK THE MORNING AFTER PILL BECAUSE I WAS NOT ABOUT TO GET PREGNANT TO HIM AGAIN. AND HE STAYED AT MY MOM’S HOUSE FOR 3 DAYS IN DECEMBER. HE WANTS TO BE WITH ME AND THE BABY AND STILL STAY MARRIED TO YOU, BUT I TOLD HIM THIS TIME I WANT TO SEE SIGNED DIVORCE PAPERS BEFORE ANYTHING HAPPENS. If she took the morning after pill this time why didn’t she take it back in 2010? I will never know if any of these accusations are true and that’s okay because how do you believe one person who lies to you let alone two? || Obviously, she would see my son because he was only a year old when the affair began and apparently my husband would take our son out with him and the OW. The few times that I was her friend on FB I noticed that she dressed her son just like we dressed our little boy…same Gap sweaters, shirts, Polo jeans, Polo shirts, hats and then claimed,”I like this style and I’m not copying you.” Since she’s had the baby every man she dates she dressed her son like her boyfriend. A few months after having the baby she started dating a guy and I remember reading on her FB page…IS THAT THE DAD? The OW responded…NO, BUT I WISH. Okay, that sounds a little crazy especially since you’ve only been dating for a month or two. Then she would send me text messages about how great her sex life was with the new boyfriend. Then she started dating a guy from her home town and after a year they broke up and a few short weeks later he stabbed his new girlfriend 8 times and left her to die in a motel room. The woman managed to call 911 and survive. Meanwhile this guy is hiding from the police and then takes the police on a high speed chase. She had her son calling this man daddy! What a great role model. || She even wanted to take the baby to my husband’s family barber and wanted my husband’s grandfather to meet the little boy. The OW has always claimed that my husband would attend her family gatherings and take our son to visit her family. I will never know if this is true because he denies doing any of things and in the past I thought finding out the truth about this was important. But it wasn’t and still isn’t. I will never know the full truth about the affair and some of the events that really happened. || The OW has said some pretty disgusting statements to my husband while I thought she was my friend (after the affair) because there were times she would text me and we would talk. I was truly convinced she didn’t want anything to do with my husband any more and simply wanted the baby to know his father and siblings.”Since we made such a beautiful baby will you ejaculate into a cup and I’ll get myself pregnant with your sperm? I don’t want to have sex with you and your wife can do that.” You never say this to any man and especially a married man. The spring of 2011 the OW and I began talking via FB and I thought we could work things out and maybe we could get along and meet the baby. But I was wrong. There were plenty of times I would send her friend requests on FB, so I could see what she was doing or see a photo of the baby. I will admit I wasn’t perfect through any of this, and at times I went a little crazy but what do you expect whenever your husband has an affair and the OW gets pregnant? It’s the most difficult situation to ever deal with and your head spins, you don’t what is true and what isn’t and then you definitely don’t know who to trust. || Do I blame my husband? Of course I do and it took me a very long time to reach the place where I am now. I can finally talk about the affair and not start crying or shaking. I don’t discuss the affair with my husband any more because there is no sense in continuously bringing up the past. Our marriage would never move forward. I feel bad for all the children involved in this mess and knowing that one day there lives may be changed forever. I hope they all understand why we chose not to pursue a relationship. It’s sad that two”adults” were so selfish and only cared about themselves. They never bothered to wonder how this would affect myself or our children. Do you think my husband cared about losing all the trust I had in him whenever he was sleeping at her apartment? || I’ve often found it strange that in May 2009 I had a miscarriage at nearly 10 weeks and all I wanted afterwards was another baby, but it never happened (God had different plans). But a year later and the OW was a month into her pregnancy in May. Did she plan this pregnancy? Some days I think she did because she got pregnant whenever she switched to a lower dose of birth control and never told my husband. Then she told everyone on FB how she switched birth control and next thing she knew she was pregnant. || Yes, my husband pays monthly child support. || Why would you ever want to be the OW? If he cheated on his wife with you then once the cat is out of the bag and she kicks his ass out don’t you think he’ll cheat on you as well? Women should have higher standards and not be okay as the side chic. Why would you settle for less than you’re worth? Why would you want to be in a relationship with a man who can’t see you on the weekends because he’s with his family? Why would you want to be with a man who is cheating on his wife? Actions speak louder than words and yes some men are looking for a woman who will simply make him feel good about himself because his marriage is falling apart. But there are men who continuously cheat on their wives and have zero morals. Women please stop being the mistress because you’re better than being a homewrecker. Hold your head up high and your standards higher. || I began writing JenniferStory (on FB) because I need a way to vent my past and let other women know you can walk through hell and come out a better person. I have more than experiencing an affair to share, I promise to be an open book and I won’t hold anything back. I want women to know that you don’t have to be a prisoner of your past and my wish is that by reading everything I’ve been through, they will realize there is always hope and light even when you feel as though you’re all alone, the lights have been turned off, God isn’t listening and no one understands what you’re feeling. || Yes, the OW is wearing a wig in the Nightline interview. She had pulled out so much of her own hair so she was forced to wear a wig for a while. || || >

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