My husband and I have been together 14 years. He was in a band with the homewrecker for about 5 years. I told him then that it was a bad career choice, because he was very talented and the band he joined with her was horrible and had no talent. Most people in the scene considered the band a joke. Him being a local musician, they both know a lot of people. || My husband had an affair with the singer from his band. This tramp had come to our sonís birthday parties, we went to each otherís BBQs and parties and we spent Christmas Eve together. She might not have been my close friend, but she was still a friend of my family. She crossed more than one line when she went after a married man knowing his wife and family the way she did. Some peoples parents just do not raise them right. || I got suspicious when he started locking his phone and shutting down his facebook or email if I came into the room. Of course knowing him the way I do, I figured out his passwords pretty easily to find out what I had suspected. He was having an affair with a girl young enough to be his daughter who had a face that would stop a Mack truck. || I questioned both of them about it and they both denied it. And the story the whore told was pretty creative. Only a chronic liar could come up with something to extravagant so quickly. I was confused because my husband was still having sex with me regularly and still telling me that he wanted to be in the marriage. He told me I was just being paranoid and obsessed. || I ended up exposing them both on FB, they denied it to everyone who asked. Until I kicked him out and he went to live with her. The whole time he would make excuses to come to the house and have sex with me, telling me he loved me and he wanted to be back and make everything right. The affair seriously affected both of their music careers and they both to this day deny that. They are both in the music scene and everyone knows everyoneís business. So I knew that if I exposed them, people would let them know what they thought. Itís amazing how many people cannot stand cheaters or homewreckers, even in the music scene. I think at our age people know better, but her being so much younger, she doesnít get it. Although they were both at fault, people put the blame on her, because as a woman she should have known better. Because of all the negativity, they both started making things up about me and trying to ruin my friendships with other people. Of course people have known me much longer than her, so that did not work. || My son seemed to be really affected by what was going on. He knows who she is and was really hurt by what went on. He will not even allow anyone to say her name; he says no one is allowed to say the D word. He has had problems in school, with his friends and acts out at home often. || After a month, my husband began to miss me and wanted to have another chance. I gave him my expectations and he happily obliged. He set up marriage therapy, but he fired her after 2 sessions because she told him that he was wrong and the things I said and did were justified. He slowly started going back to his old ways. || She came to my house one day demanding that he make a choice or lose her forever. I cannot believe that she would be that crazy to come to my house. I threw him out 2 days later. He is already trying everything he can to come back home. I will not let him back until he proves a lot of things, and still Iím not sure if I will take him back. He is swearing up and down that he doesnít know what she was talking about and that sheís crazy. That he could never be serious about her. || She obviously has no morals or class to keep going after a man that doesnít really want to lose his marriage or family. He would never openly come out to anyone and admit that he was in a relationship with her, even when we were separated. I would think that if he really cared about her, he would at least not keep it a secret. Most homewreckers are not smart and will believe that the husband will actually leave his wife and family for her. All she is or can ever be to him is sloppy seconds or Dirty 3rds. He even said the only reason he lived with her at all was because he had nowhere else to go. He told me he hated living there at all. That she was not like me and did not take care of things the way I do. || Even todayís conversation with him was about him wanting to come back home, but trying to set demands for me. I told him thatís not how it works. Heís the one that has screwed up numerous times; heís the one that has things to prove.