I recently learned of DM and her role in my husbandís extramarital affair. My Husband works at a top fortune company in the IT department. She recently had a divorce and may have wanted to have a non attached, but fun relationship. She chose my husband. He is by no means removed from the responsibility in this affair, but there were TWO parties that contributed to it. This included multiple calls and texts to his personal and work cellphone. This also included videos of her masturbating to his personal emails. || I tried to believe that she had no idea that my husband was married and with kids, but that is not true. I called and texted multiple times to ask for information regarding who she was and why she is contacting my husband. I mentioned to her that my husband was married and she repeatedly told me that they were just work friends. She was adamant about it. I have no problem with a man having friends as long as they respect the marriage. She was in fact already fucking him. || I found out months later on my husband texts the multiple meetings after work and conversation that definitely more than Ďwork related.í I confronted her again via text. This time she was more upset that even contacted her and demanded that I leave her alone. She thought my husband was a great man and does everything he needs for my family. She also reiterated that they were just friends and that Iím insecure and need help if I canít let him have friends at work. She was adamant that they only talk and hang out at work. She also convinced me that they really only talk. She mentioned multiple times that they were just friends and to never contact her again. I told her that I just wanted to understand what was going on and that I was 7 months pregnant and didnít need the added stress. She told me congratulations on the baby. End of conversation. || Well, I started to feel shitty. Okay, what they hell is going on and that they are just friendly flirting with each other according to my husband and her. || About 5 weeks later, I have the baby early. Iím just crazy stressed out and thinking Iím paranoid. Baby is in NICU for 3 weeks. We have other kids at home and I am trying to take care of them too. Grandfather is getting sicker and sicker. He eventually dies and I am dealing with this too. || Then, my husband fucks up and I see the hotel charge on our joint account. He lies saying that he was buying a gift certificate for me for Christmas. Sure enough, I got a gift certificate for a hotel day for Christmas. My instincts are on high and this doesnít feel right. I contact the hotel with my detective skills and they inadvertently inform me that my husband checked in with one additional guest and no damage was created. There shouldnít be a double charge. || The cat was out of the bag. I was to check my husbandís cell phone and she left an email stating how much she loved my husband and that she couldnít believe what they had ended. She respects his decision, but she will always be there for him and always love him. || I reached out to her and she finally told me that she was sleeping with my husband and they were in a relationship for about a year. || At first I felt sorry for her, but when all the information came out I realized that the time she called me paranoid and that I needed help was literally TWO weeks before she got a Ďsybaris likeí hotel for them to share after they had a day of massages, movies, dinner at a steakhouse and apparently ended with a great fucking session. Donít tell me I need help and to get counseling and then reserved a hotel immediately after to be with my husband right after I tell you Iím pregnant with his child. Where are the morals?