He has always had women who are”just friends”, always emotionally unfaithful even when I was delivering our baby. Keeping the family together was the most important thing to me. There are ebbs and tides in every marriage. In hindsight, was I na´ve? || Dorothy, I didn’t know about before he announced his plans to leave me. 35 years of marriage over. He was getting out of bed with me and going to church with her. He took her boating and slept in my sleeping bag and wore my life jacket. He was just”spending the weekend with the boys” and I was”controlling”. Why didn’t I check his phone? Why didn’t I check his credit card statements? That fine Christian woman just across state lines was a greener pasture. He sent her flowers, bought her a $400 cat litter box and hundreds in pet supplies. He bought her electronics, car washes, tanning, dry cleaning, jewelry, clothes, remodeled her house and wine and dined her beyond his income. He was retired and I was working. He was spending his money on her and I was paying the family bills. Now I know why he was so busy. And it wasn’t because he was doing household chores while I was at work. (He had a bad back) I still had dinner to fix, a house to clean and yard to mow. I was controlling? And do you think he would man-up to his cheating? Of course not. Everything was my fault. He has told so many lies even he doesn’t remember the truth. || Dorothy my dear girl, do you care that everything he says is a lie or are you just a gold-digging home-wrecking whore who also goes to church? Oh, wait a minute.”We were just friends and then we fell in love. We couldn’t help it. It just happened.” And just for the record, I didn’t”get everything”. This is a no-fault divorce state. He got half. Period.