Jan Edgington Durham Ohio Ohio

My husband and I have been married for 15 years this June. We met while working together and I thought he was the perfect man; however, I have since found out differently. After we moved to a new state, he joined Facebook and an old high school classmate, Jan Edgington Durham, started communicating with him. First, I thought nothing of it, she is a kindergarten teacher in Ohio and thought she could be trusted. She was married, but was having some difficult times with her marriage. I can’t remember how I first discovered it, but I was trying to get a hold of my husband who was at the airport, so I logged onto his Facebook account and saw he was online. Somehow my laptop was logged onto his account and I watched as he was having a chat conversation with her. They were flirting with each other, but I felt guilty about it and told him what I saw. He said she was just going through a tough time with her husband and wanted to “cheer” her up. I stupidly believed him and moved on with

My husband and I have been married for 15 years this June. We met while working together and I thought he was the perfect man; however, I have since found out differently. After we moved to a new state, he joined Facebook and an old high school classmate, Jan Edgington Durham, started communicating with him. First, I thought nothing of it, she is a kindergarten teacher in Ohio and thought she could be trusted. She was married, but was having some difficult times with her marriage. I can’t remember how I first discovered it, but I was trying to get a hold of my husband who was at the airport, so I logged onto his Facebook account and saw he was online. Somehow my laptop was logged onto his account and I watched as he was having a chat conversation with her. They were flirting with each other, but I felt guilty about it and told him what I saw. He said she was just going through a tough time with her husband and wanted to “cheer” her up. I stupidly believed him and moved on with my life. At that time, our son was 3 and our daughter was 5.I had quit my job when our daughter was born to be a stay-at-home mom. Life went on and I got a Facebook account and became addicted to one of the online games. The kids and I were outside in his garage playing on a video game and I logged on to play the stupid Facebook game. His computer was already on and I didn’t think anything of it. I noticed he had a different profile picture up and only had (1) friend showing. Jan was his only friend and I saw a message from her that ended with LY. I thought what does “LY” mean? Then as I delved deeper into the account I realized that this was his “secret” Facebook account. LY meant Love You. I was heartbroken…This seemed like it couldn’t be true. I was stunned and in disbelief. I had trusted that their relationship was just old friends, but it had become more. He came home from work and I confronted him. Asking him why? He said he was sorry and it was over with her. We talked all night long and I cried for days, weeks, and months. I was invested in this man. We had young kids, a beautiful home and I still loved him; therefore, I couldn’t see ending our marriage. What would become of our kids? My experience with watching my cousins suffer from when their parents divorced convinced me that I wouldn’t do this to my kids. We had to find a way to work it out. I was open with him and he said he was honest with me. Our marriage got better and he broke it off with her. But she didn’t want to end it. Time went on, and I was always curious if they were still in communication. I had to go to his work for our annual health screening and something didn’t feel right about that day. Come to find out, he had another secret hotmail account and they were still having this affair. I was livid…I was ready to leave him…I called his mom and then I called her boss to inform her that while she was suppose to be teaching the sweet kindergartners, she was sending emails to my husband at work. She knew we were trying to work on our marriage, but she wouldn’t stop calling him. I thought our marriage was over for good; however, my husband told me it was her who did all the calling and all the pursuing. He said she wouldn’t leave him alone; however, I knew it was a two way street and he did admit to liking the attention.Somehow we got past this and I was hanging on thinking of the kids. I didn’t want our marriage to end and the kids to suffer. I loved my life and was in disbelief. We could fix this marriage. We had to for our kids’ sake. Life went on again and he had to take a business trip to Mexico. During his trip, she called me at home. He was trying to end it with her and she thought he was getting involved with someone else. I really wanted to hear what she had to say, because my husband was always denying everything. She told me everything; indeed sent me all the emails she had, and even told me she had bought him a secret cell phone and sent it to him. I was again in disbelief…how stupid was I…She wanted to be my friend. She had just divorced her husband and was very needy. I thought even a little psycho. She called at all hours wanting to talk. I began to think she was a little deranged, but I was getting so much information out of her. I really tried to be her friend and told her that life goes on and it will be ok. She said she was suicidal and was so sorry for hurting me and trying to destroy my family. She said it was all my husbands’ fault. He was the liar and she was the innocent victim. She was trying to figure out who he was getting involved with now. Thought for sure it was his old girlfriend from high school, Tara. Boy did she hate Tara… She wanted to do an intervention with the three of us together and pin him down about what was going on. I had known my husband for a long time and knew he wouldn’t like that. We never went through with it and when he came home from Mexico, she called. I took the phone to the back porch and talked for a long time. He didn’t know it was her on the other line and he was very concerned that I wasn’t talking in his presence.I then confronted him that she had called me in Mexico and given me all the information about their relationship. She had every email they had sent and it was very hurtful to read. He said the reason that she did this was to try and break us up. He was so relieved that she finally called because he again was trying to end it, but she was blackmailing him with threatening to tell me. I asked him about the secret cell phone and he showed me everything. They had been sending memory sticks back and forth with pictures. I saw everything and all the hurt and pain came back. How could I again have been so stupid…I had made my choice that I would stay with him no matter what. I would sacrifice anything to keep our family together and our kids safe and secure. My family is the most important thing in my life. I will not leave them even if this woman won’t stop. I have accepted that I can’t control my husband. If he chooses to cheat on me and the kids there is nothing I can do about it; so he continues to cheat with her. She promised to me several times that she was not going to pursue him anymore; however, this is a lie. She will never stop until my family is destroyed. He says he is not going to leave me. I think he is also worried about losing all his stuff. I do believe he loves me, but she is always there if we have a fight or if things don’t go well. She is the worst kind of homewrecker. I tried to forgive her and not do anything. I don’t want to be miserable. I just want my family to live peacefully without her. She is not going to be happy that I have exposed her. I have said I was going to, but never followed through. I didn’t want people to know my business and thought it all was my private life. Only a few of my close friends know about his cheating. I have not said anything about it to my parents, my sisters, or any of my family. I didn’t want them to think less of me that I am staying with my cheating husband. She will never stop pursuing him. The other night I listened to a voicemail she had left on his cell phone…that was it…no more turning the other cheek. I am going to fight with all I have to get her out of my life. I am going to expose her for the homewrecker she is. She knows he has a family and small kids and home, yet she won’t stop. She is not the sweet, innocent kindergarten teacher. I have emails that prove otherwise when she was suppose to be teaching her kids, she was emailing my husband. She was even stupid enough to use her school email.I am going to include some pictures of her, but will spare you on the saggy boob pics. I want her to stop and I want her to stop now! I will be letting everyone know about how she didn’t actually do her class for her Master’s degree. My husband mostly wrote her papers; therefore, I think that is kind of cheating. The school has been paying her more money for a degree and work she didn’t get on her own. I have it all and feel it is in the best interest of the public to know that she has been taking advantage of them. She isn’t teaching their cute kindergartener’s if she is emailing and calling my husband at all hours of the day. When she was trying to be my friend, she mentioned that she was being evaluated and looked into by the school and was worried she would lose her job. I guess the school teachers union came through for her. She was on medication and depression meds and she said she thought the school thought her behavior was because of her divorce. She told me it wasn’t because of her divorce, but because of my husband. Blah, Blah, Blah… I do not believe anything she says anymore. She is psychotic and I am sometimes worried she might show up on my doorstep and try and hurt me, just so she can have my husband.That is all I have to say at the moment. Thanks for reading my rant. It has been hard to open up about this as I don’t want people to judge me for staying with my husband. It just isn’t about staying with him. It is about keeping my family together no matter what. I will persevere and look to God and pray that she leaves my life, leaves my husband alone and doesn’t destroy our family. My kids are counting on me to stay strong. I can’t let them down. They are my world. >

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