I have been married to my husband Chris Trader for 8yrs on June 24th. He is in the military and started doing drills in Pairs Illinois this year. He has never wanted to stay at drills before. He always drove home but all that changed at his February drills . He stayed there in a hotel not wanting to call us, not wanting to talk at all to me and his daughter. I let it go thinking he was just busy. He only did one weekend a month so I thought no biggie. He came home and things were ok then he’d go back the next month and things were bad for that weekend and then the first week home he would start fights with me and just be mean. || Well in May he broke his phone and he freaked out!!!!!! Yelling and screaming at me he cant get ahold of anyone, everything was wrong with me and our marriage. I didnt break his phone he did at work. So me being the good wife I am found him a temporary phone and put up the broken one. When he went on his next drill in May, me being the nice wife I am decided to get his phone fixed even though he was ignoring me totally and degrading me. When I picked the phone up on Monday while he was at work, I found all their sexting pictures and all their love messages. I even found his fake Facebook he had me blocked on and her Facebook (Jessie Rae). I was devastated. When I confronted him he just moved out told me I was crazy. He took all our money and ran to her. About two weeks pass and he leaves for his 3 week training. He sees through a friends Facebook I went out with some friends instead of sitting at home crying over his loser butt. Reminding you he has left me with all the bills to pay, kids to feed and I make 1/4 of his weekly income. He calls me freaking out. I love you I miss you, I’m so sorry. You are my queen. Stupid me forgives him. He fills my head and our daughters head with lies telling us he’s coming home to us going to take us on vacation and going to take my daughter to her pageant. We were so happy he had turned back into the guy I married . || So two days before he is supposed to come home he accuses me of cheating on him. Which is not true!!!!!! He tells me to never call him again. I’m devastated again. I’m so confused as to what happened. I then find out through her fb that they never stopped seeing each other. Instead of coming home and taking his 8yr old daughter to her pageant he went with his new gf and her 2 boys and their army buddies (which did the same thing to there ex wife a year earlier) to the zoo. Posted pictures for our daughters to see on fb and everything! !! I tryed contacting this girl this homewrecker but she refused to talk to me or message me back. Guess shes too guilty!!!! || It has been 4 months since my husband has done anything for us or his daughter. What a loser. The two of them deserve each other.