Jose A. Vazquez, Newport News, VA originally from Puerto Rico and in the Military (Army) and a double home wrecker. || So my ex Sarah who is in the Military finally had to deploy, and of course leading up to it she was under a huge amount of stress from being the one person that had to take care of everything at the unit prior to being deployed, and the stress she put on herself about missing home and missing out on our 2 kids lives. Now don’t get me wrong, I have deployed twice and understand the stress, but hardly allow it to be an excuse for her actions, but this part is about him. I will post hers later. || So from what I have learned, she barely stepped foot in Kuwait and he realized she was vulnerable, lonely, and home sick so he started smooth talking her. So they became smoking buddies, then they started hanging out together, then he became her shoulder to cry on, and she became his, because he was “divorced & lonely & wanted to find true love” etc., then they suddenly they had so much in common that they couldn’t help but become can’t live without each other lovers. He also fell in love with the movie “notebook”, because that is a movie a real man would fall for, so he calls her his little Allie, and sends her such touching videos, and songs, that constantly remind him of her. He is smooth! Not manly, but smooth. So it is just the usual story, except from him and her both, it became obvious like most self-professed players, he is actually a predator, and she is needy and can’t be alone. || To further explain, how he did it, he probed her to find out all about me, and then used those things to take her side, explain what an asshole I was etc. He told her how he was a player, but now that he found her he was done doing that. He told her he was a drunk, but a happy drunk, but now only drinks very occasionally, because he found her. BTW her dad is an alcoholic, and she absolutely despises drinking, but not with him. He is possessive, jealous, and has a temper, but that is only because he loves her so much. I don’t know sounds like the stereotypical wife beater, to me. || Now some information I later found out about him. He is a Ghetto Puerto Rican that is only here because he joined the Military. He has at least 3 Facebook pages, and likes to use alias such as Noah Lancaster, Keith Anderson, Jose A Vazquez, Vazquez Jose, and Esoh Zeuqzav. Has at least 3 phones/phone numbers he uses, and has multiple emails. Which is all legit, as long as you are a drug dealer or player. His English and spelling are horrible, and his Spanglish is just as bad. I did say Ghetto before, because a buddy of mine analyzed his writing and spelling, and said it was referred to as Ghetto Spanish, indicating poor learning of his own language in his own country, but I digress. And finally, as with most home wreckers, he is a chicken shit coward. Once he found out I was on to him, he blocked me on his emails, and Facebook, Myspace, etc. However, occasionally he will unblock me long enough to send a quick message, then go back into hiding. The best one though is when he came to visit her, and I found out and headed over there, because he supposedly wanted to meet me and wasn’t afraid of me, which is why he was gone when I got there and I later found out he went and parked in the parking lot at the local police station for hiding. I will point out though if you are a tax payer, that he is the Army equivalent of a Secretary, “not a war hero”, which is not where you would expect to find most men, and he spent all his time in Kuwait far from the front, spending your dollars banging my Ex. || So anyway to tell you the rest of the story. A couple of weeks before she got home I started getting anonymous emails, telling me all kinds of details about him and her, details only he would know, as he tried to drive a wedge, because he knew she wasn’t telling me about him. When she got home I noticed she kept her phone close and locked, so, I pulled the phone records. I was also able to get her email password, which just so happened to be her Facebook, alias email names she had since set up, and everything else password, which led to a wealth of information and photos that I have saved to this day, just in case they ever want to make an issue, or claim slander. Hard to slander truth. A beautiful moment here is the Military did a story on her when she got home just before Mother’s Day, so she obviously deployed mother of the year. So after I busted them out, which took almost 2 weeks, to include the time frame of us going on a family trip to Disney world, because she had promised the kids, even though I was reading their messages and emails, I left. 2 days after I busted them out, by coincidence he actually filed for divorce from his wife of 17 years, that he has 3 kids with, and shipped her ass back to Puerto Rico. I guess he was confused that he wasn’t divorced when he was deployed, but she bought it, so good for him. In finally making truth out of the lie he pulled off the two for one special; he not only wrecked my home, but his own. || So where does that leave them? Well they have a relationship based on a fantasy, where they still call, text, and see each other on those long weekends with no kids, just like when they were overseas, with no regular day to day life such as work, school, kids, friends, family, location (He is in VA, she is in IL), interfering with their relationship, so they get to play fantasy lovers, and cute couple. They don’t have to deal with any kids or family accepting she is mid-America middle class, and he is from a poor country, with vastly different backgrounds. So it just becomes a fantasy vacation. When she is back home, she pretends like he doesn’t even exist, and still tries to carry on like we are a couple, and tries to keep everyone believing we are still together. However, there are things in they have in common, for a real and lasting relationship, should they actually quit playing fantasy and make it real. || 1. They are both liars, I have shown her where he lied to her and still does, and I have seen her lie to him and still does. And yes she still lies to me, but I expect it, and can usually tell because her lips are moving. Ha-ha! With the kids and work I see her every day and I know what she tells him, and what she says he tells her, and what they tell me. || 2. Neither one has ever had relationship that they didn’t cheat on, but I am sure now that they have found the “one” that would never happen. || 3. They both like to live in a fantasy world with undying romantic love, but continue to hide their relationship from everyone, which of course is much more exciting, and of course no friends, family, or kids are involved. || 4. With all the above, they also both like playing each other, and can’t be honest not only with each other, but themselves. Seems to me they like to live a lie, so they should be perfect for each other. || I wonder how mad he will be when he realizes she is 100% bullshit, and has no plans to actually ever be with him, and he went and destroyed everything in his own life for her.