In May 2011 I noticed a behavior change in my husband. We weren’t without problems like all marriages but this was different. Things just seem to get REALLY bad between us! There WERE other explanations; the loss of his grandfather, our oldest moving away, our youngest in last year of school & possibly moving after graduation, very busy schedule at work, I even considered drug use because we had started working out in February. There was a couple occasions I asked him if he was seeing someone else. I told him if so just let me know. If he wasn’t happy then he could go. Things just kept getting worse. || In August a friend called to let me know that my husband had just admitted to hers that he was having an affair. Of course I confronted him and got,”I don’t know what you’re talking about!”, then”you’re crazy!”, when he realized he was caught I got, “it’s not what you think!” And “I was just trying to help her out, she’s a single mom!”. Yeah, ok, I was born yesterday! He denied sleeping with her saying they were just friends! It took a couple weeks before he said yes he had been having an affair-sleeping with her. I even spoke with the trash on the phone and she denied even knowing he was married but I’ve since gotten the proof she knew before they even had their”chance” meeting. You see, her friend was also having an affair with a married man who was friends with my husband and they set it up one night for them to accidentally meet! Whatever!! Anyways she went from not knowing to they never slept together to if I’d kept him satisfied he wouldn’t have looked elsewhere. || There’s so much to my story but that’s the jest of it. For lack of another word, I am fortunate (no, he really is!). I wasn’t ready to throw away a 20 year marriage if he didn’t, but if he loved her and was happier with her then I’d walk away. He was willing to work at things and we went to counseling. Turns out he was so miserable lying to me and keeping secrets that’s why he was behaving that way. He had been trying to stop it for a few weeks but she would come up with some sob story. He was also worried that if he broke it off with her before he could tell me that she might do it first. Like I said there’s still much more to my story. We are still together 2 years later. Has it been hard? OH YES!!! I know there are some out there with a different outcome than mine and I’m truly sorry but there IS someone for you that will be willing to treat you with the respect you deserve. || Oh by the way, I followed her on FB and every 3-4 months she was with a new man. On her third time around SOMEHOW she convinced him to marry her! Well, their marriage didn’t last 9 months and her husband did the same thing to her! Do I find some satisfaction in this? Of course! Do I condone cheating? Absolutely not!