This tale of adultery comes at her own admission, through Facebook messenger and text messaging. We lived in Cali for several years and only after we moved to another state did this come out. Believe me when I say that I know when an affair happens that it takes two. I am not eliminating or downplaying the fault of my husband by any means. But this is about her, and she is definitely putting all the blame on him and playing the victim.I found out about the affair in December 2009, about two months after we had moved. She contacted an ex-friend of my husband asking about him and why she hadn’t seen him around anymore. How she knew this ex-friend is not entirely clear to me. She contacted this friend via FB and then his girlfriend sent me the conversation. So the initial “outing” of the affair is 3rd hand. However, when I decided to contact her in January of 2010 via FB she confirmed that the conversation was legit.So according to her this all began in August of 2006. My husband worked on a job site that built homes and he worked on the construction of her parent’s home. In August of 2006 he began to wave at her. She said she found that odd. She also said that there were times where she would pull out of her parents’ driveway and that he would pull out behind her and follow her. Somehow in October of 2006 they met. She was never specific; she just said this started over a cup of coffee.Then, in November of 2006, they went to her cousin’s wedding and stayed the night in SF. She definitely moved fast. She had only known someone for a month, someone who she basically says stalked her, and she is already inviting him to family functions and fucking him. Definitely a WHORE! When asked about this part, he said that they did go to a wedding because she couldn’t find anyone to go with and didn’t want to go alone. He said he went with her and paid for the room but that nothing happened. At which point I told him “I’m not fucking stupid. You don’t tell me about her at all, keep your ‘friendship’ hidden, and I’m supposed to believe nothing happened?”After that weekend they saw each other all the time. This part still baffles me a bit. I worked from 7:30-3:30, but so did he. I would have thought that if he was skipping out on work that he would have been reprimanded or fired. Plus, when we weren’t working we were always together. But yes, I know people who cheat are very crafty in their deception.So she tells me that this affair went on for 3 years. She would come over to our house and hang out and fuck. She tells me that he told her we were divorced. I asked her how she failed to see all the photos with us in them, or all the female stuff in the bathrooms and around the house. She said she asked about the photos because she thought it was odd that he would have photos of us if we were divorced at which he said “that was when we were happy” and she replied “you still have them up.” To me, that would be a red flag. Furthermore, she even told me that he told her things “had gotten complicated since he met her.” Why would they be complicated if he was free and single? Another red flag? Nope, to her, being a whore, she was just that dumb. No one is the naďve. She didn’t want to believe, or more likely just didn’t care that she was fucking a married man. But by denying everything she gets to play the victim.To even lessen her fault, she said my husband had an affair with a woman he worked with. That he told her about this other woman. What’s funny is that this co-worker told her that my husband would be better off with someone like her and that she didn’t even know why or how we ended up together. I think this part may have been stretched a bit because we would always hang out with this woman and her boyfriend and son. Then she proceeds to tell me that the ex-friend said I wasn’t a bad person. All of this seems to be what she needs to keep telling herself to justify being a whore, something to take the heat off of her and onto this other woman.When she found out in 2009 that he was still married, she pretended to be in shock. She said “if he was still married how could he lay me down in his bed. OMG.” She then goes on to ask where I was when she was there and that “this would mean he was having an affair with me?” Not sure why she felt it was a question. Yes, that would mean that you were having an affair with a married man and that you are whore.What’s even more ironic about her playing the victim is that she had an on-again off-again boyfriend during this time, and she would still sext my husband. Even once we moved, she chose to ask this ex-friend about my husband even though she had a boyfriend. In fact, this is the same boyfriend she is with now. I wish I could track him down and tell him that she was sexting and trying to get my husband to move back to Cali to be with her while she is with him. To me, that doesn’t sound very much like a victim. || I guess after all this has happened, my one satisfaction is that people in the town we lived in now know how much of a whore she is. She was so worried that people would find out. After we left, I finally had other people ask me what was going on and that they heard a rumor I left because I was getting divorced because my husband had cheated on me with some waitress/vet secretary. And as much as it pains me that so called “friends” knew and didn’t tell me that fact that people know gives me great satisfaction.