I have been debating over doing this. But I know this will help me heal. I know this will help me no longer have the feeling that I should be the one putting my head down because I did something wrong. They both made the choice to do what they did. I choose to stay with my husband. And he has gone through hell for the past two years mending his errors and he still isn’t done. In 2009 I married who I thought would love and protect me. He was 18 and I was 19. That same year in December our first baby girl was born. In 2011 I was pregnant with our second baby. My husband had just started a new job, which is where he met her. I know my husband has the biggest fault in this because he was the married one with a family at home. But her as a woman she knew he was married. I would had understand if my husband lied to her, but he didn’t. || The affair started mid September lasted around 3 months, which resulted in a pregnancy. When I found out our newborn baby girl was just a month old. It just broke me and threw me into a horrible depression that till this day I’m still dealing with. So why should she get out clean. I texted her to hear her side of the story, got her number from my husband’s phone records. I had no idea who she was, till she told me we had played in the same tennis team in high school and she sent me a picture of herself. Couldn’t believe it was her. During high school I never talked to her, but she seemed like a decent person. I guess looks can be deceiving. She told me that she had started liking two of her co-workers, one being my husband and the other one who was also in a relationship. She would flirt with both, but she decided for my husband since she thought he was cute. I just love the way she would play the hurt victim because my husband lied to her. She told me how she felt bad and how she was always sad during the affair. What I couldn’t believe the most was how she wanted to get pregnant. Why would you choose to have a child and have that innocent baby (removed), because of your choices. She says she isn’t religious and yet she baptised her child in the Catholic religion. Hmmm. Well then again at (removed) where they worked at she had a history of messing around with married men. So the child she was expecting we weren’t sure if it was my husband’s or someone else. But I guess she wasn’t sure either because on Facebook she was telling someone else that she was his daughter. Just recently there was a DNA test done because of child support. Sadly, she is my husband’s. He is now paying child support, which is just another bill at our home. At first I was willing to welcome her into our family. But after the years my children don’t know about what their daddy did, but I have seen my oldest affected by it. I will always choose the well being of my children over anyone else’s. For now I will concentrate on my health and my children. || She recently started working at (removed) near Coalinga. She shows off her child’s picture to the godfather of my girls happily saying that was my husband child as though she was a trophy. As though she had won something. Well let me do this, since you so desperately want to win something, here it is. You won your own special little spot at SAHW. This is where woman like you belong. As for me, I now have three amazing little ones that help me keep going. My marriage is healing slowly but surely. We are becoming stronger and learning to seek each other when things get hard. In some way you actually helped us. I thank you for that. And I will never need to put my head down again because I have done nothing wrong or something to be ashamed of. || As for anyone who has their man near her, be careful with this one, she’s a special type.