I’m 37 years old and I have been with my husband now for 20 years. We have had our ups and downs just like any other couple. The past year has been the worse with finances and a teenage son we grew pretty distant. I started noticing my husband spending a lot more time on his phone and being very private. Then he would start arguments or make excuses to leave the house at odd hours of the night. Sometimes he wouldn’t even come home until the next morning. I had a gut feeling that something was going on and I was right. || I woke up on Saturday 05/17/14 and I had a message on my Facebook from a woman. She tells me that her best friend has been sleeping with my husband for the past nine months. I knew right away that it was true. I didn’t even have to ask him. I later spoke to”the woman” Melissa Carver. She had a very negative attitude and placed all the blame on my husband. She claimed that she had just found out that he was married and couldn’t do that to another woman and their child. I believed some of what she said but not all of it. I confronted my husband and he gave me his cell phone so that I could see the whole nine month conversation. Turns out she knew from day one that he was married. She even bragged about how she seemed to attract married men. She had seen at least two other married men in the past and she wanted my husband to choose between my son and I or her. She got furious when he told her that he would never leave me and that’s when she told him that she was going to tell me. So the only reason that I found out is because she wanted it all. When he told her no then and only then did she tell me. || Its been two months since I found out and I think of it every day. I relive it in my mind every day and my family has been ruined. She on the other hand has moved on to another man. I’m not sure if he’s married or not. Point is she has went on with her life as if she did nothing wrong. Matter of fact she was seeing this man toward the end of her affair with my husband. Pitiful this guy doesn’t even know that he was being cheated on and I was too…all at the same time.