Ok so my story starts like this…I have been w my boyfriend for 5 and a half years and have three beautiful daughters. my two youngest are his and my oldest is from a previous relationship but he loves all three the same. He used to work 3 hrs out of town. He would leave for a week and come back Saturday and Sunday at times. It had been about 3 weeks he had been changing his phone password often and would never let go of his phone and guard it with his life. Never thought anything about it. Well back in april my boyfriend was acting shady. He was in the shower with the door closed and with the music on real loud. I didnít think anything of it because with 3 girls its the only alone time we ever get. So I knocked because I needed to get something from the room and he took long to open. When I went in I asked him why he had his phone in the shower with him? He was acting nervous so iIasked for the phone and he didn’t want to give it up. I had to literally fight him for it. I thought he was watching porn on it which I never really minded. So I start looking into stuff and history and everything and all of a sudden he gets a kik message from a (friend) saying I miss you. and so I replied by saying I think you have the wrong message. When they texted back saying why are you acting weird and is you know who there with you. It hit me and I asked him if it was a female to tell me. He admitted that it was a girl he had been seeing since February and that she was 5 going on 6 months pregnant. I broke down completely. I locked myself in my room and started sending her messages asking her questions. She told me she knew he has a gf/wife and 3 girls and that she just had this special connection with him and loved him and blah blah blah. || It has been the most horrible feeling I have ever felt. He was ready to leave me because he wanted to step up and be a real man and a father to that kid, which by the way she herself admitted about a month after that she didn’t know if it was his because he wasn’t the only one she was sleeping with. This has ruined my self esteem and my outlook on life and trust. I love this man and I am still with him because he says he loves me and that she was a mistake and that he wants a dna test and that if it ends up being his, he wants to sign over his rights to her because he wants nothing to do with her. He even called her and told her all this. I dont know what to think because if he hid this from me for a year and was so sneaky and deceitful about it, how do I know what’s true and what’s not now. Her baby is due in July and i am so anxious because if he was willing to tell me he was leaving and so on how do I know she wasn’t someone who he really wanted to be with and hes just with me because of my daughters. How do I know he will not go running back to her as soon as the baby is here since she says he would call her every time we had a fight. A year is a long time to consider a relationship a mistake. Who the f**k does this?!!