Well, lets seeÖ My husband and I have been married going on 10 years. If you looked up”perfect wife” in the dictionary, you would see my face. Spotless house, good cook, children well taken care of, took care of everything, house, yard work, raised a garden, chickens, dinner was ready and on the table when he came home from work every day, I packed his lunches and had the coffee maker ready to go at 4am. || So back up until this past June of 2013, I am 8 months pregnant and my husband starts to hang out with all these young kids around 20-22 years old to go 4 wheeling with. Needless to say, I didn’t like it one bit. Here we are in our 30’s and he is hanging out with kids not even old enough to drink. This one particular guy he starts to hang out with a lot and he has a girlfriend of 8 years tag along wherever they go. It got to be an every single weekend thing, I stay at home every Friday night with our kids while he goes off riding and doesn’t come home until around 4 am on Saturday. It started to brew up fights because I was sick of him putting these”kids” and his free time ahead of our own children and family time. I was a F*cking B*tch for throwing things out of line when I called him out on having something else involved rather than just going riding. So now its July, we get into another fight about him always going with this group, he says he’s had enough of me trying to be his mom and wants a divorce. I am 9 months pregnant, I packed up the house and had family coming to get me. He came home from work and we started to talk and he asked me to stay if I promise to go to counseling. I agreed. Itís August now, he has really distanced himself and I keep asking him whatís wrong, I get the same answer,”Nothing is wrong!” On Aug 28th we went to dinner for our 9 year anniversary and he never would make eye contact with me, again,”nothing is wrong” he says. I go into labor with our daughter that night, and as I am laboring in the hospital bed, he is sitting in the corner in a chair texting on his phone the whole time. He never checked on me and when the baby was almost all the way out, the nurses told him to get over here. After our baby was born, there was no”god job babe”, I love you” nothing! 4 days after our 4th child was born, he turned to me as I was about to walk out of the door to go grocery shopping (see, Iím the perfect wife again) and he turned to me and said he no longer loves me and wants a divorce. I begged and cried why why why and all he could say was he just no longer loved me. Seeing that we do not have any family within 800 miles, I had to take care of our 4 children, do the normal everyday chores all while packing up a house since he moved out 4 days later. I ended up in the hospital on the verge of having a stroke due to high blood pressure the day after he told me, I also ended up breaking my foot in 2 places due to a fall so I was under lots of stress.He moved directly across the street and stayed on some of our close friends couch, even though he was about 500ft away, he didn’t make it over to see our kids that often. He always said he was”fishing” he just needed to be alone. || So after lots of tears and begging and pleading with him and asking him hundreds of times if there was someone else, he swore on our children’s lives, there was no one else. Itís November, I have family in town visiting and I decide now is the time to move since I have help driving a Penske truck (moving to FL to be near family) I tell him and he begs for me not to leave, says he made a mistake, he misses us. So I say OK and my family leaves the very next morning only for him to tell me, never mind, he only said that because he missed the kids. So now my ride left, he ends up driving the truck and literally dropping us off with my mom and says an extremely non emotional and very quick goodbye to the kids. (he is military and was due to leave for deployment in Feb) so this is his goodbye for over a year in other words. So my husband says when he wanted out of the marriage in July, the reason he asked me to stay is so he could meet his baby girl, then left us 4 days later. || Well, this March I find out that the whole time he was having an affair with the girlfriend of the guy he always went ridding with. Apparently a week after my husband left me, she left her boyfriend. This little whore knew he was married, knew I was pregnant, knew we had 4 kids, she even came over when they all hung out and she played with my kids. She knew of me, met me and all. Funny thing is when my husband left for deployment in February, she was talking back to her ex boyfriend and they were planning on getting back together and the boyfriend was planning on proposing to her all while she is”with” my husband. So then I make it known that she finds out that I know and she tells my husband that I know. Some how they call it off says my husband and then he contacts me saying he messed up, he misses me, and wants his family back. I think he finally realized how good he really had it with me. That the”girl” wasn’t worth loosing his family for. Even when he gets back to the states, he still has 2 years on contract and says he is buying another house in NC. I told him the kids and I are not moving and that it will not work out seeing he will be about 1,000 miles away. You cannot regain trust unless you are under the same roof. The pictures are of the nasty B*tch, even the one of her riding in our family ATV. I say he definitely downgraded to her from me. Sick to think that she was 11 years old when him and I got married. I can’t even begin to tell you all the lies he fed me, as much as I would love to have my family back because our children are so hurt and confused as to why their father would just leave us, but the kids and I deserve so much better. || So thats my story, I pray for karma on both of them I really do. I hope he is miserable for the rest of his life and it eats away at him with guilt.