Ok, I have been through so much in my life. More than any woman should ever have to go through. As a child I was abused physically and sexually. I was date raped at a party when I was 24. Yet, I am still standing and did not let anything I have been through change the good person I am! Anyway, I gave my virginity to someone who was a good friend when I was 17. I met him and his family when I was 14. Well, I turned 18 and graduated high school and went my own way. 5 years later we found each other again on MySpace. We talked for hours and hours every day for months! He lived out of state at the time. I had just gotten out of a VERY abusive relationship. One in which I was almost paralyzed and cheated on constantly. I confided all of this in him and he swore I would never feel that pain again. Well, 6 months later he moved to the same state and in with me. It was amazing… for about the first two weeks. Then I began seeing sexual messages to and from other women. He refused to work or hold a job. He called me horrible names. Then it got physical. He would steal money from me and lie about everything. Anyway, he cheated on me with over 21 different women that I know of. I got into so many fist fights with psycho girls attacking me because of his cheating. He even slept with someone who pretended to be my friend to get to him, in the back seat of my own car, another one in our house on our bed! So many sleepless nights crying! Wondering why does this man hurt me so much? He was also very physically abusive! So many busted lips and bruises. || July 29th 2012, he seriously went off the handle. I caught him messaging another woman. I confronted him about it and he flipped out! He ripped me off the potty, threw me down and started punching me! He drug me into the kitchen by my hair and beat me like I was a man while I was balled up on the floor! He even hit me with a golf club! His friend had to pull him off quite a few times! I had to stab him to get him to stop! I had never called the police on him because like an idiot I loved him. In a previous town we lived in together the neighbors did and because he took off they only filed a report and took pictures. This time, however, I had enough. I text a friend of mine in secret and asked that she call the cops. I lay there bloody and bruised as he tried to apologize like the many times he had before. She did and they showed up. I told him to be quite and I’d tell them he wasn’t there, so he would not run. I went outside to meet the cops and told them everything. He went to jail and was given two years probation in exchange for a guilty plea. I had a protection order against him. Upon him agreeing to be enrolled in Anger Management and couples counseling it was lifted. I had hopes we could fix it all. I stood by him. I will be the first to say, I was an idiot for doing so. I just tried to hold on to the memory of how he used to be when we were kids. Well, the abuse continued. After standing by him while he was in jail and everything, he never even went to one anger management meeting and only attended the introduction session of the counseling. Not even 2 months later, he left his Facebook signed in on my phone. So, I looked because I had a sick feeling in my stomach. Sure enough, he was flirting with 3 women and making plans to leave me with a fourth, another girl who pretended to be my friend. They were not even going to tell me! They were just going to pack his things while I was in class and leave. I went off! I told him straight out”I am not going to let you and this whore decide what my future is going to be!” I dumped his ass. As he was on the lease I could not legally make him leave so I had to deal with him residing with me. He never left with that girl. He kept trying to ask me back. I kept saying no. I had been talking to a friend of mine from middle school off and on for 2 years. Never sexual or anything. He was always there to listen to me. My ex would always ditch me on holidays and my birthday. I’d make meals for those holidays and he would pick fights and break up with me so he could leave. He just put me through hell. Four years I put up with this! I was a full time college student. I was faithful, honest and paid EVERYTHING by myself. I would go without so he would not have to. I helped his family, lent them money for their bills, which they never paid back. Let them move in with us rent free, always there for them and even though they would tell me they loved me and I deserved better, all but 1 of them has treated me like shit after I finally left him. || Anyway, after I broke up with my ex October 21st 2012 (best decision of my life) things between me and this friend became more serious! February 5th we became a couple! My ex decided he was going to get angry and left. Seeing as he was gone for 30 days, he had no more rights to the house and he was removed from the lease. He came right before my man was set to move in and cried and begged me to take him back. I told him”I can’t. You have done the whole”I will change thing” too many times before. I do not love you anymore. I want to take a new risk on something that may be wonderful than another on something I already know is shit.” My new boyfriend moved in and we have been together ever since! He is amazing and wonderful! He treats me like every woman should be treated! We are a team! We work together! We talk things out. He has patience for days and days. I thank my ex though! Had he not put me through what he did, I would not be the strong woman I am now! I should not have stayed as long as I did but it led me to the man I know in my heart I will spend the rest of my life with! Ladies, you CAN leave! You do not have to put up with it! You do deserve better! There is a MAN out there just waiting for you! He will be thankful that you did not go back to your ex BOYfriend! || On another note, Karma has hit my ex with a bombshell! Because he violated his PO he was finally arrested and thrown in jail and has to re-serve his ENTIRE probationary period! He bounces from female to female still because they do not tolerate his crap! He messages me once in a while through different profiles and tells me,”They aren’t you, I was so stupid.” Yet, lies about me to get females to feel bad for him! Look out for this one ladies! He is a sweet talker and knows exactly what you want to hear! However, it is not real! He uses you until you have nothing left to give! Then he will throw you away! If you get a streak of financial luck or he gets horny he tries to come back. His tears and emotions are not genuine. They are simply a way to make himself look innocent. I am posting this because I do not want anyone else going through what I have been through! Always remember, in order to find happiness you must leave behind the things that make you hurt!