Stephanie Aaron Washington Washington

October 27, 2013 my husband and I were grocery shopping. Well, I thought, were having fun. I hooked my arm into his, looked at him and said jokingly” you don’t love me anymore”. My husband looked at me and said” haven’t we had this discussion before”,”do you really want to discuss that here”?”We haven’t loved each other for years”. I was shocked and very hurt.We had had a discussion about this before where he asked me if I was in love with him and he me. I had stated months before that I loved him but that it wasn’t the teen love you experience, he said he loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. Then we went on with our lives. We have been together for 17 years, I thought we had reached a place of mutual, mature love and respect and we have a teenage son at home.On our way home from the grocery store I said to him that if this were the case what were we doing together and said some things would need t

October 27, 2013 my husband and I were grocery shopping. Well, I thought, were having fun. I hooked my arm into his, looked at him and said jokingly” you don’t love me anymore”. My husband looked at me and said” haven’t we had this discussion before”,”do you really want to discuss that here”?”We haven’t loved each other for years”. I was shocked and very hurt.We had had a discussion about this before where he asked me if I was in love with him and he me. I had stated months before that I loved him but that it wasn’t the teen love you experience, he said he loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. Then we went on with our lives. We have been together for 17 years, I thought we had reached a place of mutual, mature love and respect and we have a teenage son at home.On our way home from the grocery store I said to him that if this were the case what were we doing together and said some things would need to change. He became very angry and said what needs to change. I told him that he was still good looking and that he deserved to find someone to love him the way he felt he deserved to be loved. He became angry and asked me what I do to prove that I love him. I would not let him turn this around ( I was very calm, I believe I was guided by God in everything I said ) and I said so. He then said he would be a financial burden off of me, I told him” you said that, I didn’t”.FYI, I make about 3 times what he does and in the 17 years together he has nearly broke me.When we arrived home we put away the groceries and he went to bed, I did say to him,”if get close to you in bed it is because I’m cold and nothing else”.He was in bed for about 40 minutes got up dressed and said he was going for a drive, then said he was going to work. It was 8:45PM on Sunday night. I told him not to forget his lunch. He had done this before on a few occasions, couldn’t sleep and would go to work. He regularly went to work about 2 hours early.The next day he came to my work and was somewhat hostile, said he was going home to clean the gutters and blow leaves (weird). I really wouldn’t speak to him, old him to do whatever he wanted. He said that I didn’t even ask where he slept. I told him that I figured he would tell me if he wanted me to know. He then said that he slept on cardboard at work, I shrugged my shoulders. he told our teenage son the same thing but added that everyone at work offered to let him stay with them etc. He did the gutters and leaves and didn’t sleep at home that night. The next morning I called him and told him of an apartment I saw on Craigslist. It was a very brief call.My husband came to my work again and offered to do some more things, I said I wasn’t worried about those things and I wasn’t very friendly. He told me that I wasn’t romantic and that I was all business, I just closed the door. He was at our home that evening and said the apartment was too small and that I should find him a woman that doesn’t swear and goes to church. He came and went from the house a few more times that week, I made sure I was never around. This 1st week he never took anything from the house except instant soups and a few other food items. Even ate some food out of the refrigerator.By the 8th day he was gone I started to really wonder where he was staying so I checked the cell phone bill, something I had never done before. I couldn’t view the most current bill that showed the previous 8 days but saw that almost every weekday morning at around 4AM to 4:15AM a call to the same number. At first I thought that they might be wake up calls but the time was not always consistent. Then I did *67, dialed the number and a voicemail for a woman at his work answered, with her last name.This woman is someone he talked of just like any of the other people at his work. I had met her on about 5 occasions, the last 2 she had hugged me. She was often giving my husband muscle relaxer pills. He told me she would wash the dishes I would send his lunches in. She would cut his hair at work. I am not a jealous person plus I had seen her, not very attractive. He spoke of what a good Christian ( my husband is a Muslim from Pakistan) she was and that she never swore. I had known this woman to be married all along but about month before this happened he had told me that she had gotten a divorce, the husband got tangled up with drugs and they lost everything.The next day I was able to check the most current cell bill. The night he left the house he called her and the morning calls stopped. I traced the calls back to April of 2012. My husband made one 4AM call to her, then nothing for 2 1/2 weeks then her calls to him started, morning, afternoon, whenever. but never after 5 or on weekends. Then he started calling her about 2,3, 4 or 5 days a week. He never called her on the weekends or the evenings or holidays but for about 5 times over the 18 months.I looked up everything I could about this woman. By the next night I knew where she lived, when she divorced, February 2012, final June 2012. I drove by her apartment and found my husbands truck there. He drove 10 miles to work each day, she lived right on the way to work.I called this fake woman and left her a message. I asked how it felt to be a skank and said what a fake, phoney she is. That she was not any kind of Christian woman that I could see. I said that I couldn’t believe she had the chutzpah to hug me when I had last seen her. The next morning I called my husband, told him I knew everything. All I could say to him was that I had trusted him and I had believed him and that he used me. I asked him if his living arrangements were permanent, he said that he was not going to discuss that, and he said that I didn’t understand. I reiterated that I believed and trusted him. He said I didn’t understand and then ended with,”go ahead, get it out” I told him I packed his things and they were in the garage. He picked them up 5 days later.I had told our son what was going on. The first week my husband was gone our son said things that indicated he felt this was my fault and his father lied about sleeping on cardboard. I felt I had to tell our son. At 16 1/2 he was old enough to know the truth, not everything but that I couldn’t change the situation and that his father lied.About 10 days later I sent a certified letter asking if he would agree to an uncontested divorce. He never responded. The Saturday after Thanksgiving I went shopping to the mall near where he and this ugly bitch were living. I saw his truck, the truck I paid for, at the movies. I took out my Viva Glam lipstick and wrote loser on the driver side, Whore on the passenger side.I went to lawyer and he was served divorce papers on December 6th. He is representing himself. December 7th was the first day he called our son crying, said he loved and missed him. Our son didn’t want to talk to him and in the 3 and a half months he has been gone he has only called our son about 5 times and had only talked the one time.My husband has never called me . We had never seen each other until Thursday, January 23. I had received some divorce papers. I left work early and went to a local casino, one that my husband and I would go to together. He never went on Thursday afternoon, I would, and it wasn’t a pay week for him but he showed up with the ugly Whore. I called her everything and she didn’t blush, wasn’t embarrassed, she showed no shame, either too stupid or this has happened to her before. I yanked her hair, kicked her in the ass. I hit my husband too. He never said stop, don’t say that, nothing. He didn’t seem to care what I said to her. I know he showed up there on that day and time because he thought I might be there. I walked away and then got up and went over to them and told him I wanted to talk to him. His Whore said” talk to her”, I pushed her said to shut the F$&@ up and that I didn’t need her help. I yelled that just because she screwed him for a year and a half I was still his wife, not her, that my divorce was not final.. Security came over and told me I must stop or they would ask me to leave. I stopped and shortly after that I left. It felt so good to say those thingsHe couldn’t call me, I have him blocked, he could call me at work if he wanted, but he came to my home and left me a note asking if I was OK and telling me to call him. I never did.I need to say that the entire time he had been seeing her I had no clue. My husband and I were together most every evening and weekend. Some evenings he would go to the casino, he never called her or went to her. The phone records show this. We would have dinner each night, we lived totally as a family. We were still intimate. We were intimate the night before this happened. We did everything together but he was always a temperamental a-hole. Culturally he was always different but I accepted the differences. He had cheated on me before we were married but I had put it in the past, I trusted him. Our marriage was not perfect but I had no clue about the AM booty calls. He always explained his early morning hours as his way of creating job security for himself. I had seen this Whore and never in a million years thought he would go for her. My husband is very handsome and she was not his type, not attractive, not what one would even call pretty. I was never threatened by her.I should also say my husband is a regular pot smoker. Now most people believe it is not an issue but I do. It skews ones judgement. This Whore is homely, has nothing and has a minimum wage job. She is also as old as I am. My husband found an old nothing convenient Whore that he didn’t have to even take on a date for 18 months. I am sure she does sexual things that I may not have been willing to do. Like swallow, backdoor etc.They both ruined a marriage and family. >

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