Well my husband and I were married almost twenty years. We always had trust, this was so devastating. We had a daughter that has a lot of health issues. At the time she was going to have to have surgery so I though why not have a get together before we leave town. (Out of state hospital) Well, he had a friend he asked if she could be invited and I said sure. Someone I worked with noticed how they didnít leave each other at all the whole night. He walked her out to her car and when she left, Brian went to bed. || I left the next day for my daughterís surgery. She had complications and we were in hospital 8 weeks. During that time he was rude, distant and always letting our son run anywhere. Our daughter almost died twice, she was really a sick girl.† So he came up for 2 days and his daughter begged him to stay but he had to go home and get to work.† We found out he took a weekís vacation. He told me on the phone at night he wanted a divorce. I looked online and checked his cell phone records to see how much they talked and text. I even saw a picture of his penis online. || So as of today, September 2, 2013 I have filed for divorce twice. Now the first time I did he said we could work on it but he never did.† He went to counseling twice and was mad we talked about her the whole time but thatís what you do when there is a problem. Also during this whole time Brian denied the affair and said they were friends. I didnít believe it because after coming home after those 8 weeks in the hospital, he never acknowledged daughter when we got home. He left for work, moved out next day and that night his car was at her house. His brother, sister, and dad all influenced him on things. He was going out, going to the bar all the time. || He has played games saying he wants to come back home then he would change. His brother gave him a second cell phone to use so I couldnít find out. He told me he didnít talk to her anymore that she had a boyfriend which she did and he was married also so thatís why we were held on and played games with. Also in the meantime he snuck our kids around her and told them not to tell me. That was a red flag for me so I was afraid for him to take the kidís period. || So as of now the whore I call her, has broken up with the other married man and is with my husband, as of at least for sure December. He has treated me like crap and his kids like crap. He doesnít call or see them. I filed for divorce in January and we have had to go to mediation and court. Our divorce is supposed to be December 12th. || He still tries to play games and there is drama. I still hurt and am heartbroken. I donít want to face it. He was always a good dad, husband and family man. || Brian has snuck her to hospital to see our daughter. We have been sent pictures of them on Easter, and Valentineís day. He even talked me into filing a chapter 13 bankruptcy where you pay back for 5 years so that was hope.† We thought he was going to come back home. Now he just doesnít want to do it and wants to stop it but I will not agree to it. He agreed in mediation he would continue to do it so he pays that 2315.00 a month which is debt, house payment, my car and his car. He also has to pay 475.00 the 15th of every month until court. Itís a lot and I worry whatís going to happen. I am trying to keep my kids in their home. They have had a hard time and we didnít deserve this at all. He called a month ago saying they probably werenít going to work out because they argued all the time, blah, blah, blah. Then his family starts drama and his whore and he changes, calls the kids little f**kers. He has always been the friend not a parent. I have dealt with my daughterís appointments, hospitals, school.† My son says dad does nothing. He says he doesnít have money to take his kids now because he gives me all his money. || He is supposed to be living with his brother but he is at his whoreís house. His kids are hurt and he doesnít make time for them but he does for his whoreís kidís .Now his kids want nothing to do with him. We have given him chances and he would blow them. I could go on and on 3 years of crap no one could imagine. || Another time I was in the hospital out of state with my daughter and he was going to take care of our son that was really sick and vomiting. My neighbor called me to tell me she just came from my house and I said where was Brian?† He had left to go to bar with his whore and left his sick son.† He would never take his daughter and help out with her appointments.† He promised for 3-4 months he was going to take her for her spinal surgery but backed out 2 days before. I am the one always having to make sacrifices with my job that I havenít even worked at 11months now. || I found out he was still sneaking over to her house with our kids when he said he wouldnít, he said he respected me more than that. He would stay up all day texting and on phone together.† Although I think of how he would talk and treat me, he called me fat ass stupid bitch etc. || Itís hard to let go when he wonít allow his kids to be his friend on Facebook and hasnít for 3 years. He has talked to his kids terrible and we had to get a protection order for me and my kids. His sister was always threatening us and the judge gave it to her for 2 years. There was ††of evidence as to why it was so long.† Brian brought the whore to court with them and he didnít even say hello to his kids. || I have anxiety and I donít trust anyone anymore. I hate to leave my home and I just home karma does get them all.† I could type even more but I need to stop for now. Itís been hell for the last 3 years and he also tells his ill daughter numerous times itís all her fault.